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writes:I am engaged to a guy and with him 8 years im 24 and i am only recently starting to question this im so confused i do not think im happy but if i lost him id be upset. About two months ago he told me he kissed some other girl maybe this is the problem i cannot seem to talk to him because everything is so childish - the problem is there is this other guy nothing has happened but he makes me feel good about myself told me his feelings for me are extremely strong but he didnt want to put presure on me that i need to sort out what i want and no matter what it is he will always be there as a friend but he wants to see me happy! Im so confused i cant stop thinking about this guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo we had the chat last nite we talked for ages i told him exactly how i felt about the kiss that i dont think id ever get over it. He got upset n said he loved never wants be be with anyone else he packed his stuff n when he did this i got really upset and didnt want him to leave he stayed away last nite to give me space i could not sleep without him found it so hard and i still don not know what to do please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers really appreciate them and they make so much sense. Here is the update - I told my fiance I was not happy two days ago and he called me an assh*le. We have not spoken since. It's so pathetic! We live together and everything. I'm just so confused. If I end it, will I regret what we had? Or should I just get out now and break free from this rut i am in???
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 This can sometimes happen as you get older you change personally and also what you want from life, it might well be that you both have realised you don't actually want each other anymore but you are kind of stuck in a rut because you have been together for so long, if you can not let go of the fact that your fiancee kissed someone else then it might be best to walk away as it will always be in the back of your mind, but i would suggest having some time to yourself before getting into another relationship.
Take care.xx.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 The fact that he kissed another girl should be a problem. He messed up, and if he seems childish, maybe he is. Maybe he's not prepared for a commitment. As far as the new guy is concerned: If he respected you and your relationship at all(supposing he knew about it) he would have kept his feelings to himself. If this is the guy that makes you happy, go for it. Also, don't feel it necessary to always be in a relationship.
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