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writes:Help! I am dieing inside. My marriage of 13 years has come to an end. I never seen it coming, we were the perfect couple (almost). Things just slowly declined to the point of no return. The pain is so bad I can't eat, I cry all the time I just don't know what to do. Has anyone went through this and have any advice for me to make the pain go away. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone, for the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry! I didn't share much details...well here goes... we had the perfect marriage until my husband found out about something I did prior to our relationship and I lied to him about for many years and the truth came out some years a go and we worked through it, but he has always brang it back up when ever we have an arguement. Recently I found out he was having a relationship with another girl-texting and calling all the time, he said they were no more than friends. Well I got involved and did some investigating and text this girl myself useing his phone so she thought it was him and I found out he didn't tell her he was married and that he sent her two pictures of himself.
Then I told her who I was and we talked on the phone and she claimed that there was nothing going on between them and I believe that, but I feel he was trying to get something started. Why wouldn't of he told her he was married? Anyway she wont have anything to do with him anymore and my husband is mad at me and saying I should trust him and I took his best friend away. Then the arguement comes back that I lied to him and he thinks I am still lieing to him (and I am not). I just don't know how to prove to him that I am not lieing and truely love him. I've told him and he just don't believe me. I think he just uses my lie to get himself out of trouble. Maybe I should of left him have his little phone flig or whatever it was, but shouldn't I be his best friend I am his wife (for the time being)after all.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Sweetie, you need to tell us more, there must be something in your marriage or you life that has caused this. Have you seen your doctor, perhaps you are suffering from depression?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Well, that is sad, not knowing the details you may just have got to the point where you are ready to really do something about it.Assuming there is no abuse of yourself or any children, if you both want to make it work you can. It is amazing what you can do when you start pouring directed energy back into your marriage. Think about what attracted you to each other in the first place, all the great times you have had together. You can go for counselling, but just trying to woo each other again will do wonders too, get dressed up for each other, primp, prepare and anticipate again, do nice things because you want to, just like when you were dating.Part of the reason marriages get stale is because we get complacent and stop trying. Get back in the game, it's worth winning this one!
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