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writes:I am a senior in college and I just transferred to a new university. The semester started at the end of August so I am about 2 months into the term and it is not going well at all. Midterms have just ended and I have received most of my exam/essay scores, all of them averaged about 75. I feel sooo depressed because I use to be a straight A student and now I can only get Cs???!! I feel like I am drowning and no matter what I do it is not good enough. I study, I try to keep up with the reading but I still fall short.My last year at university and my grades are going to be pitiful. I don't know what to do. I feel soo stupid, and like I will never amount to anything. I will never get into a good grad school. I just feel like I am a failure at everything. I am drowning and I am afraid that I don't have much strength left in me to paddle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): You just want to get your degree so concentrate on getting it and put aside your ardent desire for perfect grades, which may be childish thinking masquerading as perfectionism. Your life has changed and the classes are not as easy as the ones you had in the past.Employers don't ask for transcripts unless its for an esoteric job. The degree is important because it tells employers that you can think and can organize yourself enough to have achieved it.Have the presence of mind to concentrate on just finishing as best as you can but at least with all the requisites to get the degree.If all else fails and you are too depressed to have the willpower to finish your year then for the sake of your degree drop all your courses and come back when you have the energy and desire to concentrate on the material and courses. This will cost $ but not time and your spirits will pick up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi
Okay, you are swamped but stressing over it will only make the matters worse. A tired and overburdened mind doesn't process information well and there is only so much a brain can take.
SO, try to relax and have some fun. It is good to refresh your mind a bit. And, as Older Guy suggests, talk to a counselor.
Besides, adjusting to the teaching patterns of teachers, the environment etc takes some time, so really, don't worry and at your age it is very difficult to be a failure at anything... for you have a lot of time in your hands. Stop hyperventilating, take a calming breath, and go out there and have some fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Please don't be so hard on yourself! It's tough to adjust to a new campus environment, so it's not out of the ordinary that your grades may be lower than what you earned at your previous school. Luckily, you still have time to pull your grades up and even if they hover around 75 for the rest of the semester, it's still not the end of the world. Chances are you will be better acclimated to your new school in the spring semester and your grades will improve. In the meantime, you may want to stop by the university counseling center to talk about what you're feeling.
BTW, I graduated with a 2.7 (barely) and I'm two semesters away from earning my second master's degree, so there is no need to feel like you're going to fail at everything.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 October 2009):
 I hear you! One semester can be a cakewalk (relatively speaking). The next feels like a disaster! Ask your professors if they can grade on a curve or assign you some extra credit. Ask them if they'll drop your lowest test grade. Stress can damage your ability to study and test so remember to only worry about what you can control now!Get plenty of sleep. Sleep and brain function are closely linked. If you already have good study habits try not studying the day before an exam. I know it sounds crazy but it really works because it will embed what you have been studying in your long term memory which is much more reliable than short term. Get exercise. Even if its just walking. Dont stay cooped up studying and neglect your body. Vigorous exercise increases blood flow to the brain. Also some supplements that i use are: Omega fatty acids 3,6,9 and 7. These support the health of your neurons. I take Ginko Biloba which is one of the few herbal supplements recognized by the FDA to actually do what it is purported to do! It increases blood flow to the brain and i can tell you the stuff is gold. Even just the placebo effect may be enough to get you to relax and not brain fart during an exam. Another thing that really helps is having a study partner who is trying but doing worse than you. Explaining concepts you think you understand will cement them in your mind, and the questions they ask may help you to find things that you thought you understood but really don't. Most of all, be cautiously confident. The right frame of mind makes a big difference. Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): You're not the first person to find herself in this situation. Every campus will have counselling staff. Talk to them.
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reader, Helples +, writes (14 October 2009):
 You're not a failure. You said it yourself, you use to be a straight A student. You still are, just at the moment, you're sad. Do you not like the new school you're in? Why'd you transfer? If possible, can't you transfer back..?
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