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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 years, i've sacrificed almost everything for him, and i still have to do huge favours like me asking for a loan so he make a promising business venture and i'm willing to use my salary to help him because he has been struggling to find a job, when i ask him for just one favour to consider joining my religion by taking a bible study and then make a decision he always makes excuses any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Personally I dont get it when people just up and change religions for another person.
How can you just change what you believe? If you believe a given faith system, then at what point and for what reason do you decide to just no longer believe it?
If there is a just cause (like parents chose a religion for you that never sat with you) or introspction or something leads one to another conclusion so be it, but to toss it aside to think what another person thinks, shows that the person really cant think for themselves in the first place. Then again tho - that is what the majority of (not all) religions appear to be about to me anyway - having someone else tell you what to think , how to behave, what is right or wrong, and then use fear based teachings to scare you in to adhering to it.
Maybe changing comes down to who has the scariest sounding most vengeful god to fear the wrath of?
Ok, I'm being cheeky, but yes, before anyone makes assumptions, I am religious. When people ask what religion my son is tho, I tell them he is an atheist because he is only 2 and does not have any idea yet what he believes. Point being, I think belief systems are worthless unless a person is drawn to believe a given one, not had it imposed upon them by the will of another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): Wow! You gave him money so you could land yourself his soul?
Stop helping him if it hassles you. But how can you ask someone to "consider joining your religion"? I am sure god won't like it.
What you are doing is wrong. What you are asking for is unethical.
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