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writes:Help. I feel so isolated all of the time. Ok this is a strange issue. But I am a sophmore in college..im 19 and I go to a commuter school. I live alone because it is cheaper on campus and I know no one. Its my second year of school there and I am dreading going back. Ive tried to make friends but its difficult when im one of the younger ones there with out any one to relate to in terms of race, age, and the stage im at in my life right now ( ie i dont have kids dont have a house etc.) On the weekends I come home and I work in my hometown. I have one good friend in my hometown but they are always busy with other people... people that i cant relate with. Im planning on transfering schools in another year because I am always so alone. I am smart, creative, musical, knowledgeable and im always up to date on stuff and I care about people. But I cant seem to find the right circle or feel like I belong with people.. I think alot fo this has to do with the fact that I dont like to party and drink.so I get into these two or so year long periods of deep lonliness where I dont have anyone to talk to for weeks...I seriously dont hear my voice for that long. I jsut grow alot and learn alot and it displaces me further from my peers in that way. Alot of peopel say that Im really mature, and I ahve a major that requires a ton of time in the studio/labs etc. There are some people in the community that I would like to meet but Im so disconnected with everything that I dont see any possibility of inching my way into any sort of circle. I have begged my mom to move to the local school, as it will be cheaper, maybe not as good of an education, but she says there is no way.. I had the hardest time surviving in my little room last year all by my self, adn I find it very very difficult to find quality friends, as everyone just wants to drink and get laid, or use you for some other reason to get ahead for something. I jsut want to find people that share my interests and that who i can care for. Any tips on where to go what to do? I cant join any clubs because I work full time and I also go to school full time. ITs getting more difficult because I feel like my youth is being wasted away.Anything helps thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Are you sure you can't make time to join some club or group? For your own sanity it might be worth making the time by studying or working less.
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (4 September 2006):
 You sound like you need, well, a friend. Well can't join clubs, that sucks, what about work? Any co-workers or guys there? You could ask someone out or just invite a girl out for coffee and some girl talk, because you sound like a intelligant, mature, sweet, over all wonderful person, who's going unnoticed. Thats not cool. Weeks without talking, eh? Thats not good. Here, send me a message here and we can talk more there and work out some more ideas. Seriously do ask a girl out to coffee or something though.~Ms. Tanya
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