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writes: I am with my boyfriend 2 years and I am not able to let him make me cum. I get to a certain stage and then I push his hand away, I have tried at home myself but I'm just not able. I have never experienced the feeling of it before and really do want to. please help.
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reader, lovetokissyou  +, writes (9 March 2010):
Veronika, is so right with what she told you , Its in your head were the problem is. let go you have to tell yourself that you are allowed to feel this and that you want to feel it. let your mind go.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 A lot of people do not seem realise that the act of orgasming is almost always as a result of your psychological machinations rather than what the other person is doing. In other words, if you are pushing his hand away before you orgasm and just give up in your mind, then of course you won't orgasm. It's mainly in the mind. What he's doing will give you pleasure, but in the end the path to orgasm is mainly psychological. Let yourself go. Clear your mind. Think sexy thoughts; things that turn you on. Get lost in the moment.
Don't throw up mind blocks and think about a million things at once.
Don't tell yourself you won't orgasm, because you probably won't.
Don't dwell on how much you need to orgasm, or wonder "when am I going to come?"
And don't push his hand away and think it's his fault completely.
Just get lost in the moment and soak up the pleasure. You will orgasm if you allow yourself to, psychologically.
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reader, AaroNR  +, writes (9 March 2010):
well first off your first three answers were comepletely mindless. obviously im not a female so i would wait 4 an intelligent from a woman first because they only know what feelings 2 look 4. but i believe a (totally) clear mind is key esspecially since youve have it turned into such an issue now and u have never experienced one. you absolutely have 2 b in the heat of the moment(in the mood)or it will never happen. NOT 2 SOUND CONCIEDED! so dont take this that way but your man has 2 know what he is doing(im not saying he doesnt). a finger or two, 2-3 inches in and curve them upward and do a semi hard,semi fast "come here" motion, as if you were telling some one to come here without verbalizing it.that is 2 initiate the g-spot simutaneously as clitoral stimulation (to your preference)whatever it takes to feel the best clitorly (if that is even a word)lol. but i think it depends on u whether or not what whould b easier 4 the first time(with a guy)(or by yourself) i guess which ever excites u the most! but either way you have 2 be RELAXED mentally. i hope this wasnt wasted text time and was somewhat helpfull good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): well hun is seems to me that youve put yourself under so much pressure to have an orgasim that you cant let yourself go with or without your partner, you need to go take a bath realax and have a little me time dont rush into trying to get an orgasin as this is something you have to learn to do so as you can then show your partner how to touch you so you climax with him. It will happen for you but not with all the presure, one thing i will say that you will need to help is luberication it really helps alsSexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide you could also check this out
hope this helped
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (8 March 2010):
 How old are you? How old is your boyfriend? What is your religion/cultural background? What country are you from?
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reader, mt7300 +, writes (8 March 2010):
Well why do you push his hand away? Do you get to a certain good stage? Is that what you meant? Idk if this sounds gross to you, but try watching a clip on the computer. You know what I mean. Depending on if your comfortable with it or not. But if you find some you like and that turns you on, it can help dramatically. Then once you have one, they start to come easier. And once you've mastered it, help your bf.
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reader, koliedescope +, writes (8 March 2010):
As subordinate as is sounds, one method you might try is to have him tie you up (out of fun). A limb to each corner so that you aren't able to push him away. A few shots of Vodka prior will of course help with this :)
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