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anonymous
writes:Lately I've been feeling incredibly depressed about being a woman. My boyfriend is amazing and is always doing everything he can to make sure I'm completely satisfied in bed. I like sex a lot and have it frequently and almost always finish. Yet all I can think of is how unfair it is that I am stuck with my sex organs while he gets his. I like being a woman in every aspect but that. His orgasms are pretty much a guarantee and that organ likes pretty much everything done to it. I hate that mine is always getting chafed or smelling funny and that I can't feel much of anything during penetrative sex. It's also a messy thing to touch. He can play with his easily and whenever he likes as it's totally external and it's considered some kind of requirement for him to need an orgasm every so often, but it's not some kind of necessity for a woman to need to. For him it's just, well how can I make my orgasms most intense and make everything feel as good as possible, while for me it's how can I just get there? I don't really know what to do about this, it's just making me extremely depressed. Can someone please explain to me why I should be happy that I have what I have, other than the "ability" to give life (that one is a NEGATIVE in my book)?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
It sounds like you need to get that boyfriend of yours to experiment with you. I've never once been with a woman who just 'gets there'. It takes work! The most important thing is that you're relaxed and that you feel adored. If you worry, or if you're feeling depressed, that really isnt' goijng to help you. Find out about yourself and you might have more fun. Men might have more orgasms, but I don't think they're as intense as female ones! Get it right and you'll never be jealous of a man again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): Grass is greener on the other side? You sound like you need to be more comfortable with yourself, and I dont think this is purely about your sex organs. Why would your vagina be a bad thing, you have boobs too, aren't they also annoying you? Or your hips?
Being a woman is a package deal hun, you can't pick out parts of it that you like. Besides, you never had a penis, howcome you are now the expert of how great it is to have a penis?
Work on getting more comfortable with yourself. Consider a lesbian relationship next time so you wont get so jealous everytime you see a penis.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (21 September 2009):
Illithid beat me to the punch... and hit every point I wanted to make...
His organs guarantee he can cum so long as he can get hard and hold an erection. When that doesn't happen he's not coming. You on the other hand... can, and repeatedly.
As for the smell and taste, I've NEVER had one I didn't enjoy- EVER... each was unique in smell and flavor, from sweat to acidic, but they were wonderful- add to that they were attached to a woman I cared about and it was great!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Wanna trade? I'm not thrilled to be a man. My ex got an average of at least 5 orgasms whenever we were together, sometimes as many as 10 or more. I could give her oral and go for an hour straight on her, leaving her with 8-12 on good days (up to 15 on great days, and once even 30 in an hour and a half), and only stop because she was so dehydrated and out of breath and sore that she couldn't take anymore. Meanwhile, if I got one at all, that was it. One. Never more. (Mind you, she was extremely selfish, so she usually wouldn't even give me that one, but that's beside the point.)All I can say is that the grass is always greener on the other side. Keep working with your guy, experiment with new ways to combine oral and manual work, and perhaps toys, to see what he can do to curl your toes multiple times. They might not all be good ones, but it's been my experience that after the first easy ones are out of the way, number 3 or 4 can be a real backbreaker.And just so you know, the smell is a good thing to many men. I for one love it. And penetrative sex is generally not much for women. It's all about the oral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): Well for one thing, our orgasms are far more intense than men's because we have many more nerve endings down there.
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