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writes:I'm incredibly depressed. I really can't eat or sleep because of my ex-boyfriend. We were together for 11 months and had a wonderful relationship but then towards the end it got bad. insecurities, fighting, you name it. I had to end the relationship because I was feeling trapped, I fell in love too young and never got to experience new people. so i left him to try and find fun in other casual relationships, which he could never accept or do the same. but we always had an on-off kind of relationship which made the situation worse.now i finally have come back to him after a year. im so in love with him and i dont want to ever be with anyone else. but ive hurt him so much through the process that he's too scared to be with me and now HE wants to see someone new. i know he loves me and will never stop and he just wants to try new experiences. but i cant accept it. i know im being so selfish but it kills me to see him with someone else. i dont know if i can be his friend while he plays around with others. should i ignore him to numb the pain? or stand on the side while he has his fun and is ready to be with me again?
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reader, Lonely999  +, writes (28 February 2009):
i am going through an extremly similar situation me and my ex were together for 10months and i was happy right up until the last few days when i freaked out bcos i thought to myself im 15 and dont need a long commital relationship so i told him this and we split up. but i now regret it but he doesnt trust me enough to take me back and wont even talk to me. my advice to you even though i am so young is stick with your friends tlk to him explain that your feeling upset bout the way he feels but think to yourself weather you really want to let him do this and weathr or not it would be best if you asked him not too. What ever happens keep your friends near you and dont spend to much time along thinging about it, i did and thats what pushed me to do it and i regret it more than ever. im not sure if this will help at all but i hope it does. chin up
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reader, lost666 +, writes (2 October 2007):
 If you have told him how you feel? that you still love him then at this point there is nothing more you can do, but do not lose hope, i still believe that i will find my way backt to my ex bf who i love soo much and if its meant to be you will find a way back to yours. the hardest thing in the world is seeing the guy you love with a new girl (i cried non stop for days when i saw my ex bf with a diff girl) but just stay calm dont act crazy or irratic, it will make you all the more attractive to him, also focus on bettering your life just for the time being - sometimes we need to take a step back and try new things to make us realize what we truly want, hopefully your bf will realize that he wants you.i know how you feel words cant describe it but stay strong and keep the faith xx
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (2 October 2007):
 you need to move on and however much it hurts right now, you're young, resiliant and will bounce back.
any break up hurts but if you wanted to see other people and now he wants to see other people, there is a trust issue and you're better to go your seperate ways. don't stay friends because inevitably you are going to get jelous and more hurt.
best of luck.
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