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writes:I'll try to keep this short for you. I'm debating on whether i should dump my girlfriend or not. We've been dating for five months, We're juniors in highschool. I really like her alot, but our relationship has flaws i just cant ignore anymore. She flirts with another guy on facebook, and they have pictures posted up together in her albums (i dont have any with her on her facebook) This guy lives in a different state but they see eachother every once in a while. She always tells him she misses him and he even tells her he loves her?!? They send eachother corny music videos about people in love. Well on top of that, she isn't allowed to have a boyfriend at this time in her life, and wont be allowed to for many years to come. She has been lying to her parents for 5 months about where she has been going when we hang out. I have shown her everything in my life so i feel pretty crappy about this. Are these reasons strong enough to break up with a girl, even when you still like her? On top of that she's saving her virginity..I feel like im not getting enough out of this relationship, but i don't want to end it now and come crawling back to her later. Honestly, my life has been revolving around this girl for the past 5 months. What should i do?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 It seems like you're giving more in this relationship than you get. Before you completely break-up, talk to your girlfriend about this situation, how you feel and the thoughts that have been bugging. If she gets defensive, and doesn't even try to make this relationship more equal, walk away. There's nothing you can do about her wanting to save her virginity for love/marriage but I really think she should try and resolve the other issues you named or else, lose you to a girl who treats you better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010):
i think that you should dump her most girls at that age don't know what a good relationship is they think life is a big party. I strongly suggest that if you like her end things with her gently that way when months and even years have passed she will say how much she missed you and how perfect you were for her. i have seen these happen. right know as hard as these seems for you she is just testing the waters to see whats out there.
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reader, Eskim0  +, writes (17 October 2010):
I think you should confront your girlfriend before you end it with her.
If this is the issue then it can be easily resolved by just telling her that her constant flirting irks you. If she stops then congratulations, she obviously cares about you a lot. If she doesn't...well it maybe time to pack ya' bags and move on.
Also, you've gotta remember that some girls are just naturally flirty and flamboyant. She maybe one of 'em.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): I have been in a similar situation as you. Although I'm a few years older than you my ex boyfriend was like this with girls on facebook but tried to hide it from me.
What your girlfriend is doing is disrespectful to you. She needs to make a choice, if he lived nearer do you think she would still be with you? and who do you think she is saving her virginity for?
If hes gay its slightly different girls can be a bit OTT with gay friends but it just seems to me that this relationship is not 50/50
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