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writes:So here is my problem. I'm in love with my best friend's brother. When she found out she was pissed but now she says she is cool with us being together. We have been seeing each other for about seven months but I still feel guilty. The thing is we really do love each other. I am in no way choosing him over my best friend but I think that's what she feel like I'm doing.help?
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reader, halawlaw  +, writes (17 February 2011):
well.. the fact hes your friends brother gives put himmm in a situation which he has to apear or get lost while you are there to somewere.. so its many options how to apear but get lost every time is much simple but very rare..!
the apearence has some efect of crushing even if hes a total nerd or not so beautifull. that fact damanded you to take some distance. u ended up together which made the distant you took to look not so strong. and thats what annoyed your friend cause it looks to her that your friendship ended up as a failure. you should ask in some anger ''why you dispose me out of our relationship not from me and him?'' that should do the trick.. (like you care more for your relationship with her) kapish? godspeed
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (16 February 2011):
 You answered it: she's jealous. She doesn't want to share her friend with her brother! That means your secrets may pass to him and she has to share everything with him already! :) ...but also, she's probably worried that if your relationship with her brother doesn't last, it'll cause a lot of drama and put her unfairly in the middle of choosing which side to be on. Likewise, if her and her brother start to fight, you'll be hard pressed as to where your loyalty goes.
So, if it comes to you and your man breaking-up (God forbid!) don't blame her if she chooses to be distant from you for a while. When it comes down to it, family is forever and friends come and go. Granted it's not always this way, some friends last a lifetime, but there has to be a lot of understanding and patience for that to happen.
Good luck!
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