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writes:I've been dating a girl for three months now and I can see this relationship lasting for much much longer; definitely the best one I've been in so far. Something weird happened the other night however: she told me I was the first guy she ever kissed. I believe her as she's always been refreshingly honest, but this raises a more important question.She and I have slept together but have yet to have sex or do anything more sexual than make out in our underwear. Previously I just swallowed my pride and tried to be patient. Now I realize she must be a virgin, and while I'm willing to wait for her, I want to make love to her eventually.I;m experienced but have never dated a virgin, and frankly I'm terrified of taking hers the wrong way, as she'll remember it forever. Any advice of how I should bring up sex with my virgin girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): I would say that you should talk to her about it. If you guys are comfortable enough to sleep in the same bed, and do stuff with clothes on, then I think to bring the subject up would be a good idea. Just find out her views on it - don't make her feel pressurised, but just try and find out before you try anything further whether she is anywhere near ready to have sex, and her reasons for waiting.
I'm afraid I have totally different views to 'Forgiveness'. I am an atheist, and frankly, I don't agree with this 'sex only within marriage thing'. Each to their own, though. However, if this girl cites similar religious reasons, such as wanting to remain a virgin until marriage, then please respect that (although I'm sure you will, considering you already appear so caring).
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): i totally agree with purple1234 .
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reader, Forgiveness  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Tell you what keep her pure no matter what !
Well for whatever reasons that she is a virgin for so long, you should be all the more reason with love and respect helping her stay that way.
I tell you one thing man, sex can never be more better , fulfilling and right as it is in marriage.
Pardon me if i am too straight with my views.
Keep that lovely girl pure and take good care.
Sex has place only in marriage and never outside.
It's doesn't matter what the world is doing.
Make good strong choices as young men. That is what you should be thinking off , rather than anything else.
I am 25 myself, so this is no grandpa speaking !!
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