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writes:so i am a 18 year old in a happy relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months and were perfect together! but i have this yearning to be with a girl and try it out. i dont want to break up with him and i know he would not go for a three some because we have had issues with me and kissing girls. i dont know what to do i love him so much and dont want to loose him but i want to get this desire and temptation out of me so i can focus fully on him. what do i do? HELP!
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 April 2012):
 If you are honest with him about this then it may be enough to make him consider breaking up.
If you do not tell him and he finds out later then the trust will be affected, perhaps forever.
Before you take this big step I am pleased that you are weighing up the issues and considering the potential outcomes.
Perhaps consider a couple of face to face visits to discuss this with an expert counsellor who can help you do some SWAT analysis.
The counsellor is not there to tell you what to do. Nor is the counsellor there to make up your mind for you. Instead the Counsellor is there to help guide you to make decisions that you feel completely comfortable with, after you have weighed up all the issues affecting you and your life at the moment and your current relationship as well as your potential same sex friend, whoever she may be – or not be..
So think about your current relationship – what are the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats to your current relationship?
Then if you form a short (or potentially long term?) relationship with a girl how will this affect you and your boyfriend - who you love and do not want to lose?
I realise you are flirting with your curiosity and it may or may not be ‘meant to be’
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): Leave this temptation as a fantasy and be faithful to your boyfriend if you like him so much. Remember it dont matter if its a different sex, if he dont like it and sees this as cheating then its cheating. Some sexual ideas are ment to be forever a fantasy, but if you two break up, maybe do this before another relationship begins if it bothers you that bad.
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