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writes:i have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now and i lost my virginity to him...but last night i had a dream about someone else is this bad??
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Oh my Goodness,
Be ready for tons of sex dreams for the rest of your life. They don't mean anything, sweetness. You can't control your dreams. I have weird sex dreams all the time about other guys. I've had these really weird reccuring dreams about Alex Trebek (from Jeopardy).
Don't feel bad about your dreams. Your dreams are places for YOU and all you. Completely private and yours to do whatever you want!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): i tentatively disagree with what the other people here have written. i don't think it's 'weird' necessarily that you dreamt about someone else, but i also don't think it's necessarily harmless. maybe it is, but you have to really think - is the someone you dreamt about a person you find attractive? if you and he were both single - might you be interested?
if the answer to either or both of those questions is yes, then i think you need to carefully evaluate the amount of time you spend with the person that showed up in your dream. we think about the people we see. it's normal, in any relationship, to be attracted to other people, and even to have maybe fleeting crushes almost. but the key is how you handle those feelings. if you're commited to your bf,, you won't just try to pretend they don't exist. you'll acknowledge them to yourself and then stay away from the bait, just in case. ppl always say their relationship should be strong enough that getting to know someone else woudn't trouble it, but that's just how they lie to themselves to pursue temporary pleasures instead of focusing on building a life.
if you and your bf are still only casual, then that's one thing. but if you're serious about him, and this guy in the dream is someone you find intriguing and that you've been spending some time with lately ... i think it's a signal that you should back off. b/c if he's getting into your dreams, he's getting into your life, and you don't want to let him get in any further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Don't worry about it at all. I'm sure, like me and everyone else, that you dream of weird things as well and yet you have no real control of what you dream about. You're not unfaithful, if that's what you're worried about. Everyone is curious and it's fine. It's called being human. :-)
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (23 March 2007):
 I woulden't worry to much about this dream, unfortunately its something that we have no control over. I don't think its bad atal, and don't think you should feel guilty either, just maybe keep it to yourself and don't tell your boyfriend.
All the best x
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