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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, so I am a college student and am currently taking a class. for some reasons we have two teachers in my class, one is female and the other is currently a grad student(male). BTW he is 27 and i am 20. Although he doesn't look very much charming and he is very passionate about what he does in life. he is actually co teaching our Asian American leadership class and always has thoughtful knowledge on the subject. though i don't really enjoy the class and most of the time dont speak up in class bc i don;t feel like to and get very nervous when he is there. everyday i always think about him and would check his status on twitter. basically i just really want to get to know him more personally, but i don;t really ask questions after class bc that's the other teacher watching and is very hard to ask about his personal stuff. Plus since i am not very into the subject so i don;t have anything to ask. i really do like him alot bc to me he is the sunshine type and is just so passionate. He is nice to me and to all of us bc he has to since he is teaching a class. but i really want to get to know him more and possibly let him know how i feeel about him. so does anyone have any advise of what i should do? Should i just come to me and tell me how i feel or just ask him whole of questions, or just simply ask him to hang out? ALSO he is a very outgoing guy, i mean he has over 1600 friends on facebook and seems like he likes hanging out with girls. in his pics, looks like he got very cozy with girls like he is holding their hip. so i don;t know if he will like me bc i am shy to strangers tho i become very outgoing once i am around my good friends. he is tall too and i am short so is that also a consideration when looking for a date? help me out here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): thank you for all your feedback. umm I just want to clarify something here. Actually he is NOT a very teacher kind of a teacher, i mean he is the teaching assistance to the main teacher or staff, plus we call them by their first names and not Prof or Mr. He is also a student too here on campus so i don;t see there is a problem dating him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Pull this guy aside after class and ask a few questions about the class then try to transition that into something more personal, get a feel, then ask him out for coffee. Try to start the convo off with something about the class as that is def common ground so youll have a perfectly good reason to initiate convo so this would not seem awkward. You seem like a classy girl. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): because of the implied power relationship of teacher versus student it is invariably the teacher who is blamed, when the relationship is exposed, rather than the student. Please wait until you have your degree awarded and have left the institution. Only then could you approach the student teacher. And such a relationship, conducted while you are still a student, results in the teacher compromising their ability to have authority, as they should, kept at a professional level. Even if you dont realise the harm that can result i pray the student teacher is savvy to the harm of your intentions. You potentially put this student teacher into a precarious situation you could, at the very least result in the said student teacher not wishing to be in your presence. Or ruin this teacher's career. Teacher/student relationships, albeit the students in question were under the legal age of consent, have ended the teacher's career in teaching, and in some instances resulted in the teacher being jailed. would you feel bad if that happened?
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