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writes:I am a shy boy of 16. A few months ago, I met a girl who studies in my school, just one grade below me. At first, I did not feel anything, but as time passed, I realized that I was falling for her - I started to like her very much. But, we have different classes that are far apart, and I don't have the courage to speak to her. What should I do? Please help, because this thing is killing me.... (She would not even recognize me, or know my name, since we haven't talked yet. I know her name, though.)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2018):
 Sweetie you cannot be falling for her because you have never even spoke to her, true feelings come from getting to know someone. My guess is that you find her attractive and you feel she looks nice. The only way to get her attention is to say hello, but don't come on to strong or you may scare her away. So start off small next time you see her smile and say hello. Then next time after that ask her how she is and introduce yourself. Take small steps at a time until you build up the confidence to have a full conversation. Just remember she is just a person like you are so there is nothing to be afraid or embarrassed about.
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reader, N91  +, writes (9 January 2018):
 Falling for her in what way exactly?
You mean you find her attractive? Because you have no information about her to be falling for. So she's pleasing on the eye for you, what do you do from here?
You have 2 options as I see it, you either approach her and talk to her or you let things go and find someone that you're not afraid to talk to.
Think about it like this, you're a human being, she's a human being. why are you Afraid to speak to her? What puts her above you to not be able to approach her? Will you be like this with every girl in life that you like? Because with a defeated attitude you won't get anywhere in life.
Speak to her about something you have in common, if you share a class, mention something about that. Ask her for help or advice on the class. Something where she can open up and it's not a one word answer. Then when you've broken the ice you can start building more confidence with her and progressing things.
Believe me man you will face a lot of rejection from girls in life, it happens to everyone and the sooner you get over that fear the easier you will find things. It's not even just with girls, it will make you much more confident in general life.
Just go for it, what do you have to lose? You worst you can get from someone is a 'No'. Then you dust yourself down and go again. She's just a girl, there's billions of others on the planet, stop acting like she's so special and go get her.
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