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writes:Ok so here’s the thing, I’m like crazy in love with my best friend right but I don’t know if he likes or loves me back and I don’t want to ruin the friendship and I don’t think I can stop loving him what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2018): Your friendship isn't a friendship any more because feelings are involved. It's been changed, so it won't be the same again - whether you "date" or he "rejects" you.
This isn't love, but it still aches. It's a big crush and being good friends means it could pass in a few months, with so many crazy hormones.
For what it's worth, teen dating isn't really dating and it leads to a lot of upset/drama. If he isn't flirting, don't admit feelings and don't flirt with him. Treat him like a brother, not a regular boy, if you want to get over your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2018): It might be something that will pass, and things will go back to normal.
You are between 16-17, and your teenage hormones will trick you into thinking you're in-love; but not the kind of love you're supposed to have for a friend. Especially when the friend has no idea you feel that way.
You really want to tell him, and you'll imagine it as he'll say "me too!" Then valentines appear, and you'll fall in-love, and live happily ever after.
Now for a dose of reality.
Instead, it might just get awkward; and he'll accidentally say something that will embarrass you, or hurt your feelings. The words you don't want to hear are: "I only like you as a friend!" They shouldn't hurt. If they do, you made a big mistake telling him.
Wait, and don't say anything. Sometimes the feelings just cool-off, and it's back to normal. If he isn't saying or doing anything romantic around you; they're just your feelings. Not his.
You won't stop loving him, but you might stop "the way" you're loving him.
You want to be in-love, and he's the closest boy on your radar. This is how you learn to draw the line, and set boundaries. Just because you feel a way about someone; it doesn't always get returned.
If you decide to open-up that Pandora's Box; you've got to be strong enough to handle what you find inside!
Stay friends! If it's meant to be anything else, nothing will stop that from happening.
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reader, Food is life +, writes (25 November 2018):
Food is life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice let’s see if it works lol
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reader, kenny  +, writes (25 November 2018):
 I would play it cool and don't rush into anything too soon, like declaring your feelings, if you do you could jeopardise your best friend relationship.
Just keep doing what you are doing, being best friends, keep being natural, normal. If there are romantic feelings between the pair of you, these must not be forced, but rather let them them materialise naturally. I assure you if there are romantic feeling on the cards for you both they will certainly transpire over the natural course of time. If you play it this way, and there is nothing between you romantically, then you still have your best friend, no harm done.
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