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writes: I got together with this guy,he was all over me,we were crazy about each other,we got on so well. After 3 months he decides that he is not ready to commit himself to just one girl.he has chatted to lots of people and tells them that he still likes me and he can say one bad thing about me and that nothing went wrong in our relationship.Im finding it very hard to move on when i know that we were really good together, i keep thinking, how can i let this slip away and never know if it could have been amazing!? We still hook up every now and again and have the same circle of friends, i know he gets jealous when we're out and i talk to other guys. When we are out together he almost acts like we are still a couple. Pls help, i still am crazy about him and i want him back.....
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reader, Confused S +, writes (24 November 2006):
Confused S is verified as being by the original poster of the question I did it again.....My ex and i got together the other night, i feel so bad about what happened but in the heat of the moment it all seems right....until the next morning comes!His best friend that i told you about wont even talk to me now(he told me that he has feelings for me), i feel bad coz i told him that i wouldnt do that again coz his friendship means more to me, but i also dont see why i have to walk on eggshells around him and explain everything i do!!This is my life & i have to live it......
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): If he was really my friend wouldn't he be doing everything he could to get my ex and I back together?
No, if he is really your friend he will take his cue from you, and if you do not seem happy with the relationship he will support you in that....he is right that it is not OK for you to just be your ex boyfriend's beck and call girl because you are an ex after all. Lose the bad boyfriend, you need real friends, my dear. Take care darlin'.
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reader, Confused S +, writes (9 November 2006):
Confused S is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for those words, you are so right but its so difficult not to be with him when i see him coz i miss him soooo much so that little bit of physical contact is so awesome! But i do feel terrible afterwards, almost as if i have lowered myself...So i've decided that im not going to let that happen anymore coz i know i am worth so much more.
Thing is, his best friend & i have become close(in the friendship sense)& that was sort of my only way of being around my ex, now the friend has said to me that he doesnt like the fact that my ex has to click his fingers & im there so whenever he is out with my ex im not allowed to go with, which i suppose is right, he is only tryign to look out for my best interests. But i think he might have developed more feelings for me than just friendship & is a bit jealous. If he was really my friend, wouldnt he be trying to do everything to get my ex & i back together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Well, the thing to do is to keep letting him see you talk with other guys, jealousy does help build passion....don't pressure him by telling him how crazy you are about him, all you can really do is just keep building on the friendship that you already have, don't sleep with him if that is what you mean by hooking up, he hasn't promised you an exclusive relationship, so don't act as if...
It is agonizing to wait on someone you may be in love with, but if you do these things, the wait will be worthwhile because your relationship will be founded on friendship, trust and then passion....just take care of his emotional needs by being his friend, stay in contact but don't be a complete pest, stay busy, enjoy dating others and take care of yourself....good luck!
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