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writes:hey everybody! I think i need to tell my guy friend something. I like to hang out with him and go running with him and we have a lot in common. However, through some of the things he does I feel that he just wants to be more than friends for now. I am happy with that too as my life is really busy right now between school and sports. I dont know if he knows that I like him but he prolly does cause I smile when i am around him a lot and help him with stuff. However, if we plan to hang out or something, he will want to and then at the last minute say that he cant and has to do something else. This just started happening recently and it might be cause he knows that I like him and may feel umcomfortable around me because of it. I havent even done anything to make him feel uncomfortable. However, last November he asked me out for dinner and a movie and i really liked him ever since but he has never really asked me out again. Instead we just hang out at his place. The weird part is he will ask me to strech him out and ask me if i can give him a massage. Yeah i do it cause i like him and want to make him happy. He will do the same back to me. But he will never want me to come over it seems like sometimes. He likes it when i stop over to give him something or when we run together but he never seems like he wants to see me, i always have to be the one to initiate, that is how its been lately. Sooo i really dont know what is up here.Anyway my question is should i tell him that i like him? Should i stop talking to him cause he may feel weird that i like him? Do you think he may be bothered by me and just doesnt want to hurt my feelings? Do you think i should leave him alone and just go running with him? There are so many questions....im confused=/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd I also decided to only contact him when I want to go running with him. I will wait and see what happens. I will not act moody around him at all or distant. I would feel better knowing that I am not annoying him and making him feel more comfortable and not as pressured. Hes got enough to worry about. I plan on not doing anything else. Thank you again. I just wanted to make sure if chosing to only run with him would be the right decision. I think is is now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanks. That was i was thinking of doing back off cause I dont want to annoy him or anything or make him feel uncomfortable. That helped me out a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): It sounds like to me that he is your running buddy but that is about it, the massages and stretching out are kind of weird, but if it never leads to caressing and kissing I'd say he is not romantically interested in you.
Canceling plans at the last minute is rude and gives the message that he is not interested in a relationship with you....
You say you always intiate contact....stop doing that, totally back off and wait for his call, if it doesn't come then move on....If you want to remain his friend, then that is fine but don't push him for anything more, sometimes friendships turn into romances especially if they are good ones, but don't stop being interested in meeting other guys, take some of the pressure and focus off of him and see if he doesn't start chasing you.
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