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writes: Heya, Me and my current boyfriend have been together for just over two months, and even though there is 200 miles between us, we still see each other more or less every 3 weeks. I love him very much, but two weeks ago, my best mate told me he loved me and his feelings for me were getting stronger every day. We talked about how we felt about each other, and I began to realise how I truly felt for him. I do love him as well. Now I can't stop thinking about him even when I'm with my bf, and I can't seem to stop some sort of hatred creeping in towards my bf. Also, me and my bf did have an argument the other day but we both sorted it out. But lately he's been accusing me of cheating. He's done this before and he's told me he's joking, and he doesn't push it too far where I have a go at him for accusing me for something I haven't done.Except this time I have cheated, and yes, it is with my best mate. But being with by BM feels right, and I have done more with him in three days than I have with my bf in two months. Sometimes I feel like my bf is afraid, and he doesn't always show his true feelings. He dislikes my friends, the way iI dress sometimes, some of my music, how I talk (as in my accent, even though I don't have one, and he says I sound american), how I apparently act different around my mates than when I'm with him, and he just doesn't seem to care about how I feel if there is a problem within my family or with a friend.I don't know what to do now. I love my bf but now I feel more for my BM. and I feel I belong with my BM and not my bf. Maybe I should tell my bf that I need a break as our relationship is long-distance and it's hard for us to see each other. Ir should I tell him about my BM? I don't want to hurt my bf, or both of our mothers (they are set on us being together). I don't want to hurt anyone, but I feel like I'm hurting myself if I don't do something soon. My BM is so special to me and I don't even feel guilty for what 've done behind my bf's back. I need help with this, as I am getting so confused about how I feel about both of them. Could someone please give me some advice?thank you so muchxxxx
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (18 April 2006):
Your bf lives 200 miles away, you have seen him every 3 weeks but have been with him only 2 months - so you must have seen him only 3 times - that is not exactly a huge commitment or a relationship.
Your best mate sounds great, and really, all you need to do is to phone your bf, tell him it's over, and move onto your best mate.
Never mind what your mother thinks - it's your life, not hers.
Good luck
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