A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, Ive been with my bf for 6 months now and i instantly fell for him... i walked into a bar and within 5 minutes our eyes met and were fixed on each other.. 5 mins later we were talking and the rest is history! The first 2 months were great we were totally into each other and then suddenly things sort of changed. He has a large group of sporting friends and they all go away together on extreme biking weekends which is fine with me but recently i found out his ex girlfriend goes on these weekends as well as she part of the big group of friends. Now hes never mentioned her to me but i know he sees her a lot and it sometimes means i get excluded from things. Im not sure if the problem is hes not sure how to introduce us or if he is still seeing her. i dont think he is still seeing her as i dont believe hes that type of guy but my mind keeps playing tricks and thinking he is.I honestly dont know what to do... i have brought her up once and he doesnt seem to want to discuss it.I dont know whether i should just end things as i cant carry on wondering and each time he does weekends away with sporting crew if she will be there. As mentioned they do seem fairly close, a bit too close for my liking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): hi,
I am from India, so from a totally different social background. So I dont know if my advice would apply to you correctly. The best thing for you is to join him on those biking weekends. And when you cant then just plan a great weekend for the 2 of you. That way he wont miss out on the fun there. Otherwise you can discuss with your BF that you are not comfortable him hanging out with his ex-girlfriend and if its possible for him to avoid those biking trips. If he loves you then he will surely understand. Hey but do not fight or get angry with him for that. Else it will make you look bad in his eyes. Finally it really depends how much effort you want to put in to make things work. And this, my dear, only your heart knows.
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