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writes:hi peeps :) First of all Im 18 and Bisexual.. So there is this guy (hes 17) who I met in Facebook I added him because I was looking for a new friend around my area (we just moved in) and also I want to be more fluet in English. we meet up and i can say that it was love at first love! I wanted to keep this short so here it goes... One night I really got drunk nd I told him that hes cute and I like him. he told me that hes bi aswell and he asked me if I want him to kiss him and we kissed! we went home at 3am nd he texted me that he liked our kiss and that he enjoyed it.... He got a confirmation that hell be moving to Spain for a year or mybe for good and hes very excited for it! After three weeks i told him I am inlove him but he told me that he doesnt have feelings for me and that hes inlove with someone else! he also told me that we cant be friends bcuz of that i love him and its going to hurt me. I keep wishing him if we can still be friends for a week until he finally agreed.Two weeks later we decided to meet again and I went to his house.. we are alone and we had sex! he took my virginity and he knew it.. i told him that im very happy and he said that hes happy too..after that day he only txted me 3 times .. i got really sad nd depressed so i got drunk again and stayed in front of his house nd its raining really hard.. he called me freak and stalker and he told me by txt that he doesnt want me to be hes friend and he said goodbye...its been a month now but i just cant move on! i really love this guy and i dont know how to get him back!my daily life is ruined becuz of him and i cry every nyt! hes leaving this 28th of June for Spain nd I want to see him for the last time but i dont know how im gonna ask him..My question is... what is the meaning of a kiss nd having sex? is it not a form of love? i came from east asia nd i dont know that much about the western culture...im also thinking the possibility that he cant love me because hes leaving and its going to be difficult for both of us to have a long distance relationship? what do you thing guys?thank you very much for reading!:)
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Okay, the way this guy treated you is NOT indicative of the Western Culture. You were used by this guy for sex and nothing more. Sex isn't a form of love. It can be an expression of love and it can also be a selfish, self-serving act.
What I want to know is, after he told you he couldn't be friends, and that he loved someone else, why did you have sex with him?? For him to claim to love someone else and then have sex with you is low. He is a pig.
You can't let him ruin your life. He isn't worth it. You made a mistake in giving him your virginity, and now you have to let it go. You have to let him go.
If you continue to pine away for him, crying and lying in your own self-pity, then he wins. If you continue to wallow in self-despair and depression, he wins.
If you pull yourself up off the ground, treat what's happened as a very valuable lesson on what kind of guys to avoid and NOT giving yourself sexually right away until there is MUTUAL love, then YOU win.
Pull yourself together. You don't need to see him again. Blow him off as rat's piss. He doesn't deserve to see you again.
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reader, romany  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Sex is very different from love, and i'm sorry to say he doesn't love you, he was turned on by you, and you offered yourself, and he took advantage. It happens alot, not everyone lives happy ever after with the person who took there virginity.
Sorry that your hurting, but it will get better and the pain will go away.
Dont call him, dont go and say goodbye, just let him go and you go out and meet people the normal way, face to face, and dont drink anymore.
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reader, nightgurl +, writes (18 June 2010):
 try to focus on other ppl and dont have contact wit him
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