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male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear qupid..... My woman and I started a swinging lifestyle. The first time we got together with a couple we had no problems.... Second time no issues there neither..... Third time was all bad.... We get there and like always starts off by asking questions and giving answers. We all start on the same bed then after a bit she takes the guy by the hand to the other bed cause according to her there was not just enough room for all of us. Next thing I know is that I'm left all alone on the bed and all three are going at it. So I went to the bathroom and she comes in there after, telling that she felt like she was cheating on me. I told her not to worry, by that time I was done so we came out. She seen that the other couple were going at it pretty hot and heavy. She tells me at this point to go and have sex with her and that she insisted. So giving in to her wishes I proceeded to do what she asked for. She went bach into the bathroom and come out 20 minutes later while I was giving oral to other woman. So she asked me if she could speak with me. We both went to the bathroom to talk. She got all hell bent and asked me what did I think I was doing that she looked like I was to intimate and intense with her because she was enjoying herself too much. At this point we went back out. The other woman says to her man, poor baby you didnt get to finish! my woman and I were done by that point (we agreed in the bathroom). The moment she heard that she looked at me and gave me a evil grin and yells out I'll make him finish.she pulled his pants down and starts giving him oral like she never has given before. She made me feel like I was a punk. After asking her "did we not agree that we were finished". She turns to me and says "I did it on purpose" her reason was that when she came out of the bathroom I was enjoying myself to much. Now shes asking for us to find more couples to hook up with. Im confused! What should I do? Can anyone help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): My wife and I have an open marriage and have extensive experience in swinging. To us you need to have a deep, open, and honest conversation and bring all the issues to the table before you even consider having another swinging encounter. It sounds to us as if you have serious communication and insecurity issues and these can lead to disaster if not dealt with.
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reader, Boost  +, writes (2 September 2013):
By the sound of it she wants you to both go, doesn't want you to enjoy yourself but wants to enjoy herself and you to have no problem with it. Sound pointless you going. From what I can tell all she wants you to do is sit and watch her as she's having sex with other people. It doesn't sound like there's any point in you being there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2013): So basically your gf/wife wants you to have sex with other women but not to enjoy it too much. This makes no sense. What's the point then?
I wonder if she really is looking for an excuse to have sex with other men herself and that's why she agrees or suggested this swinging thing as a way to benefit herself only.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 August 2013):
 I agree with SVC
It all sounds very very F'd up.
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female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2013):
 why are you swinging?
you two are not cut out for swinging... there is no room for insecurity, jealousy or childish games.
swinging will not fix broken relationships. it makes them worse...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): Well really if. She can't handle you pleasureing some one else... what's the point of doing it.. ur just setting yourself up with problems aren't you..
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Just curious, you call her your woman, are you two married?
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