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writes:Hi there, i think i am a bit confused on what you women do really want in a MAN, i mean do you prioritize being physically mascular or having a good personality? i am not physically mascular but people told me i have a good personality, i havn't had a gf sofar for among the reasons being i don't have confidence to approach women; pls help me, i would appreciate if women gave me their opinion i can't wait to know. thx alot.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Hmm well personally I always look for someone who can be himself and actually have a conversation with. Looks are great an all, but they're not everything, most girl even if they dont act it they think "what if spend the rest of my life with this guy"
I like someone I feel safe with, whos affectionate, kind and caring and someone I can turn to whenever i need to and takes my opinion into consirdersation and also someone who can come to me about anything as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): You know the way guys usually talk about the things they want in their girlfriend? Personality, funny, fun to be around, etc?
Well of course it's true that we really do want all those traits in our GFs. But the unsaid assumption is that we only want to search for this dream-girl from within the ranks of the physically attractive girls, not literally from all girls out there.
Same with girls. They're not lying when they talk about what they want in a guy. But girls neglect to mention that they only want to search for these dream-man traits from among the "hottie" subgroup of guys out there.
You should also realize that most girls ARE totally lying when they say they don't want a bad-boy. (Maybe they don't even think that they want one. But girls sure do go for them, don't they?) Most of women's want-list is true, but their words & actions don't match at all when it comes to this particular issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): I always want everything that my previous boyfriend either didn't have or couldn't give me. I don't mean in terms of money but just emotionally and stuff like that. In general though at this point in my life I want someone who wants to get married. I think? But that's very important. Like in my early 20's marriage was the LAST thing on my mind. But now, I won't even date you if I don't think you want the same thing I want.Two things that are REALLY important to me are that a guy is really intelligent and active. I hate couch potatoes. I love guys who play sports and go to the beach. Whatever. Just who likes sunshine and wakes up in the morning energetic and ready. Just have a active lifestyle. And he's got to be intelligent. I am not referring to being book smart. I mean that's cool too. But what I mean is I love a guy who has an itch for learning and curiosity for learning. That kind of intelligence. Who asks lots of questions and thinks about things with an open mind and with humility. Oh that's so sexy. Just easy and fun to talk to. And I like a guy who I feel safe with. Who I know will protect me and has my back. Who's not afraid of anything. And especially not afraid to stand up for me. If I even have to ask, forget it. If you are a coward I can't handle that. I'm not a coward. So I want someone who's like me and more. And obviously someone who thinks like me and has similar values. I just want someone who I adore and will be my best everything. And all these things I mentioned will be the judge of that. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): What do men want in a woman?
Actually its quite simple. Just make us food when we're hungry. Suck our dicks when we're horny and don't whatever you do try and distract us during our sports.
Oh and learn to embrace porn. There is nothing so hot as a woman who will watch porn with a man. Lesbian porn especially.
Flynn 24
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reader, Hid3nTearDropz  +, writes (18 December 2007):
for me he doesnt have to be HOT just someone i click with by the looks. but he has to be funny. I am big about humor and he has to be funny and have a lot to say. i want to be able to sit with him on a saturday night and just talk without looking at his face. so for me looks like about 15% the rest is humor and being fun to be wtih
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reader, starfairy +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Personally, I look for a nice body, but a great personality is a MUST. And he must be able to make me laugh, and we must have stuff to talk about (awkward silences are a no no). Money isn't all that important but it's nice to have the odd bunch of flowers, or be taken out to dinner or the cinema. I love tattoos and piercings. Blue eyes make me melt, but I;m not too fussy on details like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Do u mean apart from the Bank Balance...lol.
No seriuosly, something that I crave for in a man is a lot of patience, for me there is nothing more sexy than a guy or a man who knows how to be a patient, good listner,focused in life,considerate,heartious warm smile. On a superficial level just someone who is clean, smell nice and keeps his house/room reasonably tidy...if that makes sense.
Rather than worry about on superficial looks concentrate on your career and life. Who would ever resist you if tomorrow you become confident high flyer professional. Woman who don't bother today as you are still young will be dyeing for you tomorrow. Do you understand what I am getting at.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (18 December 2007):
Dude it would take you your whole life to answer that question.A better strategy would be pick on a girl you wana date and find out what she wants from a man but please don't go trying to be who you are not just to please a woman.Women are different and so when you are done learning what 1 woman wants you'd have to start learning another but the common desire of all humanity is LOVE.Men and women all wana love and be loved in different ways.So just love them.
Good luck
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (18 December 2007):
 What do men want in a woman? Depends on the guy doesn't it. And the reverse is true to answer your question. There's no point in trying to be something you're not. What if you met and a girl and she wanted to marry you based on the false image you had created. What do you do - admit you are a fraud - or be a fraud for the rest of your life.
That's not to say that you don't accentuate your positives and minimise your negatives.
Good luck
Richard
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Hi Hunny
Kindness of heart and a good personality goes along way for me way above the six pack the great car and the money money money hunny....Nothing can beat a kind a caring soul sweetheart take care love mandy xxxxxxxxx
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