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anonymous
writes:Hi, i've started to question my sexuality alot. When i was smaller around 6 or 7, i experimented with my cousin and another boy. i also remember seeing a movie where i saw this transexual guy and i was confused.. after all that though, i was interested in girls. Just recently i had my first girlfriend, a girl that liked me. I was new to it so i didn't know what to do sometimes. there was this one point where we were going to make out but i guess i was bad at it and she stopped.. when we broke up, she said she didn't have feelings for me anymore and i was becoming more of a friend than boyfriend..so after that, i was really depressed and i started to question my sexuality. before we went out, i would never think of that. i think the break up triggered it in my mind of something.. was it because i'd never make a move on her? was it because i was always nervous and shy around her? was i too emotional with her? so i started thinking about it.. i would see other guys and not be aroused or anything but think if i was attracted to them.. i didn't know. i still don't. i still see girls but check them out more than anything. i sat through gay porn and sometimes would get an erection but most of the times, it wouldn't turn me on thinking that it was two guys. i still fancy girls, but fancy boys to test myself and it doesn't feel right. i end up thinking about this stuff everyday since i wake up.. my attraction to girls isn't the same neither after the break up, i still like them but it isn't how it used to be.. plus i'm still pretty shy around them so that makes me think too.. sometimes they end up thinking i'm weird or something. i imagine myself having a relationship with a guy but i could never see my self with a guy more than a friend.. and i would be really sad to give up on girls.. so am i gay or straight? i might think i have hocd?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (25 February 2010):
You MIGHT be bi-sexual. Did you ever think of that? At your age, you're just figuring it out. Don't worry so much... it'll work itself out. Either you'll start having more feelings/attractions towards guys... or you won't. If you DO, don't freak out and hate it/yourself. Ignore societal rules... they're all pretty much bullshit anyway. Just BE yourself.
It sounds to me like your SHYness and/or have a low self esteem are what's putting up internal walls which keeps you from what you want. This is something only you can address. Remember, NO is just a word. All you have to do... is go ask a person out. If s/he's not that into you... that's HIS/HER LOSS... NOT YOURS. I know this sounds really cliche, but someone BETTER WILL come along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): Stop thinking to much about it relax and just be yourself
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reader, charmzx5 +, writes (25 February 2010):
 well if you liked the girl and had feeling for her then you can be bisexual because at the same time you like boys the question is which do you feel better being with boys or girls? or like me you can like both and be bisexual regardless of what gender you like it doesn't matters all that matters is that your happy :-)
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