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writes:I'm confused about my orientation and would like some advice.I'm 26 and I've always found girls attractive, from a young age I have always wanted that coupling relationship with a girl and from about 13 i've been sexually attacted to girls.Occasionally (like once every 2 years) I had a moment when I think I was arosed by another guy. From about 24 (for the last 2 years) i've been attracted to images of guys as well as girls. I am attracted to girls in person in an emotional and sexual way but when seeing images of guys I am sexually arosed as well, as much so as with women. I've always been rejected and somewhat humiliated by the girls I like and have never had a long term relationship and I feel sexually unforefilled because of it. Could this lack of proper relations have increased my interest in guys or am i gay/bi and should accept it?I've read a few comments and found them insightful would be great to get some advise on my situation.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): I think knowing your sexuality is hard. I'm 24 and I've never known what to label myself. When I was 15 I was absolutely sure I was a lesbian and believed that whole heartedly until I was 19 and had my first sexual experience, which was with a woman. It was god awful and I knew right then I was definately straight. But, a year went by and I started to become attracted to women again. I think I was put off women because the woman I had an experience with was my best friend and I wasn't attracted to her at all and I only did it because she wanted me to and I felt dirty and it took me a long time to get over that.
I think that shane in the l word summed up sexuality perfectly, "sexuality is like fluid, you just go with the flow" Sometimes I hate not being able to label myself, but other times it's great. I'm not defined by any one thing, I'm just me. I think for you perhaps dating men and see how you feel is the best option, but I wouldn't jump straight into bed with them and try to find out that way, because from past experiences it's done me more damage than good.
Good Luck!
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (17 October 2008):
your bad relations with girls will push you to think more about guys. Your using guys as an excuse not to try harder with girls. Don't fall into that trap. Going the gay way may look glamourous and fun, but think about how you will be treated by your family and society in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): It's o.k. to be confused, but you said you've always had a natural attraction to girls. Just because past girlfriends didn't work out doesn't mean all hope is lost. On the arousal part, our bodies may respond to certain pictures or touching...that's when self control should kick in. Are you sure you want to give up the dream of a caring/sensitive, pretty, soft, sensual woman to share your life with? She's out there somewhere hoping to meet You!
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 It looks to me that you could be Bi-sexual, since you are sexually attracted to both sexes however if you decide to accept you sexual orientation as being a bi-sexual it is hard to get committed to a fixed relationship with somebody since women would prefare a heterosexual and the same goes for a homersexual. I guess you should keep it for yourself if you are bi-sexual and wait until you find the person you truely love, then you will be able to box yourself in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): I understand where your coming from, I am a lesbian myself, I have been one since a VERY young age. Just find a woman who's good to you, see how it feels to really be loved by a female, that should make things a bit more clear.
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