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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I’ve been dating a guy for a month, but its long distance. He’s English but moved to France in June (I met him before he left but we weren’t going out at the time). He’s back over here next week, which I’m pleased about because obviously I get to see him. He’s not really fit but he’s ok and that’s not what is important to me, he’s really sweet and I believe he is one guy (if not the only) who has ever seen me for me. But there is a but. I’ve been waiting for a guy for 4 years. He’s not that fit either but there’s just something about him and I can’t stop my feelings for him, though he’s always had a reason for us not going out. At one stage he said I ‘was sexy and intelligent but not gf material’. Everything was ok and we weren’t even talking because I decided we could never just be friends and I couldn’t go through the hurt of being turned down all the time. But he texted me the other day and asked how I was and apologised and said he had missed me. I told him about my bf so he does know that but has said he’ll wait but he really wants a relationship with me.Before a week ago I would of said I felt so much for my bf it could even be love now I’m confused about my feelings for either of them. I don’t want to loose my bf because I know if I dump him its not fair on him and it wouldn’t be fair for him to take me back either. But my feelings are never going to change for the other guy. What should I do? What are people’s opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I hope this answer is not to late!
You should seem very confused and you are still very young; I would suggest you consider a friendship with the guy that treated you so bad before; see how he treats you now; but why dump the other guy if this one might turn out to be a jerk again?
Enjoy your time with the one you have been looking forward to see and just be friends with the other one; give yourself time to see what the future holds in store; don't rush into anything.
Good luck.
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