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writes:About 2 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend. I recieved oral sex from another female friend of mine. It tore me up to do it, but I was under the influence. Not that that is any excuse. The whole time I was with her it hurt me so bad to hurt him, I stopped her. But I couldn't find the courage to tell my bofriend. So yesterday he asks "Have you ever cheated?" and I felt absolutley compelled to tell him. And I did. He nearly cried and made me feel super guilty. Although he decided to stay with me he tells me he no longer trusts me and our relationship won't ever be the same. That hurts me, he won't talk to me, he doesn't want to see me, and I just don't know what to do. Ive apologized but it seems to mean nothing. How can I prove to him that I am truely sorry and that I love him? How do I go about regaining his trust? I am despritley seeking advice because love will make you do these things.. I just don't know what to do. Guys how would you respond to your girlfriend doing as I did?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 He will be looking at your actions to see if he can trust you again.
1-Stop drinking or whatever you were under the "influence" of. That would be a good first move to show him that you will not make the same error again
2-Break your friendship with her now.
The other thing I have to ask is if you might be bisexual? If your interest is for both men and women, at some point, you are going to want to explore that part of you more. If you are bisexual, you need to find a relationship that will support your sexual orientation. Maybe your bf is not it.
I did a number of interviews with bisexual women, and maybe they can help you. You can download them for free at
http://www.fbkradio.com
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.fbkradio.com
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 You can apologise all you want to him, but that's just words. If you really want to regain his trust and confidence, there's only one way. You have to prove to him that you're worthy of it. It's going to take a long time, but you can do it.
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