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writes:I am so tired of being picky but I can't help it. So here is the situation. I have like three or four, maybe five girls who I could date right now and they are all very nice but Im not physically attracted to two of them. and the others complain about there lives and how this boy doesn't love them when all I see on there facebook wall is guys saying your soooo hot and cute and BS like that. One in particular and I can't stand it. some of them have no idea what a bad life is like yet bitch like they do. Im not saying this is only girls who do this Im sure guys do it also but regardless I can't hang out or like someone who complains so much. As for me I like what I like and Im not really trying to change it that much, I workout to keep myself in shape and to look good, it also gives me something to feel confident about but I am looking for a girl who at least is athletic and built nicely. Im not trying to be rude or offensive but Im not interested in a girl who is bigger than me. Im 6'3 and I would say my height has some problems because its hard to date anyone less than 5'3 ish and I don't really want a girlfriend who is taller than some of my guy friends. (I apologize if thats mean) The last girl I dated wasn't very girly and I think that was a problem... she broke up with me because she met a new guy who smokes and is a drop out. So I think I want a girly girl because I like to feel like Im someone's rock which is another reason I workout. So my questions are.1. how do you tell a girl that you don't want to date them but not sound like such an ass.2. How can I become less picky 3. Are there certain things I can do to change the type of girls who are attracted to me into girls I am more attracted to?4. do girls like taller guys ( I know its harder in highschool) So those are my questions and any help would be great, I will respond to any answers posted Thanks again
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reader, aresu  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 1. you only need to politely tell them that you are not compatible and your are not interested.
2. by trying to appreciate other kinds of attributes and looking for the beauty in them, but i dont know why you say you are picky, in fact i dont think you are too picky at all, everyone has things they are looking for in a partner and your seem to not be too many, and the previous poster said, you just havent met the tight girl yet, i dont think you would want to be with just any girl, is not good to have no standards at all.
3. you cant change the girls you attract, as you cant change to what are people attracted, but you can keep them as friends, just dont make them think that their could be more than friends. and eventually you will attract a girl that you will also like, just be patient, you are only in high school, you have plenty of time.
4. that depends on the girl, but i dont think that you will have a problem with it, girls usually dont have a problem with taller guys, is the short ones who are more common to have problems with, im not saying this applies to all women, or most. im only saying that is much more common for girls to complain about short guys than taller ones.
i hope i helped you in any way i could. good luck in your search.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Question one just say, I like you and I'd love to be friends with you but I don't want to take it any further.
Question two I wouldn't categorise you as picky, you just haven't met the right girl yet who knocks you off your feet and makes you want to be there for her. When that girl comes along you will know. There is nothing wrong with staying single until the right one comes along.
Question three there's nothing you can do about who is attracted to you but you don't need to feel guilty about not being attracted back just stick with the lets be great friends route and it's all fine.
Question four some girls will profess that they like taller guys but at the end of the day you can't really control who you fall for. Some girls have long lists of things they want in their ideal man and then end up with someone who is nothing like that.
Just stick at being you and fill your life up with stuff that interests you and that you enjoy doing and have lots of great friends. Your girly girl will come along when she is meant to.
All the best I hope this helps.
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