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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have started talking to a guy on-line and we are planning to meet for the first time tomorrow. I am not too confident about my physical appearance as I have lost about 30kg over the years, but now at an average size. I am big busted and the weight lost has not been too pleasant to the overall appearance of my body. Anyway I've dated some guys where they don't notice and its not an issue. However when talking to this guy and asking him what he finds not attractive,He says big women and large breasts, do I call it off? Or just see what happens? He's already seen my picture, which is a accurate image of me. because i'm not overly confident about my breasts and even thou I was a larger women, his comment makes me less confident. Would I be wasting my time to go ahead on this date tomorrow despite my concerns?
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (19 December 2015):
Good things often come from being engaged in life and taking chances. I would definitely go on the first date with him. Hopefully, you'll keep fully clothed for the first few meetings.Women are often overly self-conscious about their bodies, being concerned with things that guys barely notice. Several times I've gotten into hot water just for not noticing and mentioning a hair color that's gotten one shade darker or lighter...and these are women I wasn't dating and hadn't seen for at least a few weeks.Men are often into large breasts or just don't give a darn about breast size. So I'm not sure what to make of his comment about large breasts. Maybe he is referring to double-J size breasts and you are considerably below his limits. After all, he has seen a photo of you and has obviously been pleased with that.In any case, don't mention to him any issues you have with your own body. A woman did this with me years ago and - when we got to the point of getting nude together - I negatively fixated on that particular body part, which was something that I otherwise would never have noticed.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (18 December 2015):
 You asked him a question and he answered you as truthfully as he could so try not to take this personally. To him these are things that are unattractive to him. However he is going to meet you as a person not just a pair of boobs. Give him a chance, he has saw what you look like and he wants to do on a date so just be yourself and give it a go.
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