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writes:In the past year and a half, my boyfriend and I have had a lots of ups and downs and things were finally seeming to get better again when 2 weeks ago on Saturday we were at a friends house and we met a girl, lets call her C. My pregnant friend, we'll call her L had told me about her and how she does not trust her at all, she had also said that she has previously tried to get with her boyfriend during her pregnancy and she is lucky because she knows her boyfriend(A) wont go near C. A is probably one of my best friends, and I know to trust him and L over a lot of our other friends as they will tell you it as it is and not pussyfoot around it.Anyway, When I first met C she was with one of our other friends new girlfriend(S)and me S and C spent most of the night playing pool, having a drink and generally having a laugh. I went to the toilet and when I came back C was crying to S over an abortion she had a year ago and although I had practically just met her I tried to comfort her and I told her that I had had one aswell when I was 15 as I knew I couldn't have coped with a child then etc and she kind of turned on me and started being manipulative and aggressive towards me for having done that (at this point S was at the toilet and by the time she was back C had stopped crying and was having a laugh again.) About an hour after this my best friends boyfriend M came to the friends house we were at and C kept telling me how "hot" M was etc and she kept glancing at him. Anyway me and S went to the shop together for some more booze and when we got back my boyfriend B was saying that C wouldn't leave him alone and kept staring at him longingly, I put this down to him being funny and quite nice on the eyes and her being drunk! P another of our friends arrived 5 mins after me and S got back and C immediately started telling me of how she has slept with him every weekend for the last 3 months but they weren't seeing each other. P later told me C had lied, he had slept with her once and didn't want anymore to do with her as she constantly tried to phone or text him and generally he felt she was like a stalker.I told my boyfriend this and he started joking about how she would be like that with him next and now I am worried he might be right.That Saturday there, we were at the same friends house again, and again me and S went to the shop together and again B said C would not leave him alone, although she never acted like this infront of me ...Later that night, still at the friends house, everyone had found somewhere to sleep but me B and C were still up but tired and cold so I went to find a cover and when I came back C was lying with her head in B's crotch basically, I was not happy about this but I am not the type of person to say anything and B did not seem to say anything to her either. She then was blatantly using any excuse she could get to touch his body etc and it seemed like she was giving me dirty looks a lot of the time.We all found a spot to sleep on the floor and me and B lay down first then C looked where B was and went on the other side. I didn't go to sleep, I watched to see what C was doing as I was at that tim very suspicious of her and I could see her stare directly at B when he slept and I just couldn't take anymore so I got up shouted fuck that and walked away. A was lying on the couch next to where I was and he followed me through to calm me down etc. but B woke up and came through aswell and he told me not to be stupid. I went on C's bebo today to find pictures of B and her obviously taken when me and S were at the shop aswell.I am not a very jealous person but with this I am, I am so afraid she will take him away from me I can feel myself get more possesive over B, but only with her around. C also texts me almost all the time but she normally asks about B instead and L thinks this is her way of trying to get her way in.I dont know what to do, B is the love of my life and I know he loves me too but I am just so paranoid of what she might do. How can I tell her to back off?Thanks xxx
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reader, claireleatherdale +, writes (9 September 2008):
 this is very hard how do u say back off and not hurt her feelings it's simple u cant tell her that u don't trust her and never leave her alone with B either ask B or C to come with u 2 da shop or just don't go 2 da shop at all then that way u've never got a reason 2 doubt B it might not be the way u'd handle it but i know what jelousy can do and believe me it'll drive u mad if u let it
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