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*ostinlytton
writes:Im clearly unhappy, my fiance see's this but why cant he just let me go? My life is pathetic! There is this man who I had loved soo much and now well, I will always have love for him. I live around his world. I have his friends, I see his family, if i want to once a yearly go see my friends well, he makes me feel terrible about it so I just never end up going. I have not gotton able to see my family in a little under a year, (theres always something wrong with the cars whenever we are in Wisconsin and even remotely close, and if he doesn't fix the car well we wont be able to get home in time.) He supported "us" for 2 years and now is unemployed. Basically he says "i owe him" for those 2 years. Well, watever....I pay all the bills now, buy the food, and everything. He is on parole and well, refuses to transfer his parole to Wisconsin where I would be a lot more happy. But then I think...what would i do without him, what would he really do without me? He's like my left leg, and I am like both his legs. But I love him....but I know he has no future, no goals, no responsiblity, i dont even think he yet knows what "responsibility" is. He is 27 years old. I bet u all thought he would be like 18 as I decribed him. Anyways, Ive packed my bags many times, but only to have him make me think everything would be ok. I would say it is OK but we will never go anywhere in life if were together. So I know it's not going to work. I must move on. But I just cant because I think, his life will absolutely fall apart without me piece by piece. I have a huge heart that i wear on my sleeve. I know my life will fall apart if i do not do something soon. Im completely misrable. Im addicted to the internet cause I dont think about my real problems when im on it. So the past 2 weeks is when it hit me, I have let the dishes go, the laundry go, the house, and ive just sat on here. While it is my quik cure for my sadness. Hes wanted to go out to eat and whatnot and ive declined knowing I will have to pay, and I just dont want to do anything with anyone, Im sinking into depression i feel. I guess it wouldn't be so hard if he could just LET ME GO but he wont, and I dont no if i can leave without his acceptance, as that would be my way of knowing he will be ok. How do I get him to just let me go, he's see's im unhappy, then y cant HE JUST LET ME FLY? So I can get my life back together, my family back, my life back, my friends back. Please help me as I am Lost~in~Lytton
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Why does he have to "let U go" if your the unhappy one? Its not up to him, its up to you to leave, regardless of what he wants. If your unhappy, you need to change that, dont rely on him, hes already made you miserable, move on, your still young, and it is showing. Its NOT up to him to let you go, its up to you and yourself ONLY to let urself go! Go get your life, family, and friends back, you control your life and all decisions made!
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