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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now. We are almost 2 years dating officially. We have gotten in a lot of fights over the time and always seem to make up. Shortly after we began dating she got pregnant. We decided to keep the baby and work on things. When things were good, they were great. A few months later she told me I was controlling and we had our longest fight in that time, lasted 2 weeks. Over the time, she tells me that I should work an than give her a break from the baby and let her sleep. I am the only one who works in the relationship. I try to give as much of a break as possibly. She always tells me when we fight that I am controlling and she is standing up for herself now. We will fight for a few days and things will be okay. Lately they got a bit worse. I dont get along with her family. Our sons first birthday she got mad because a girl I used to talk to sent a present with friends of mine. Later that night the adults went out while we had a baby sitter. She got mad that I did not introduce her to a guy I work with right away. She got over it. Later that night I went outside for a smoke and she sat at a table with 3 guys who she said she knew from grammer school but did not recognize them. We ended up fighting over a miscommunication. We kept talking each day for 2 days. Things never really were talked out. I got mad and left her house. The next day we did not talk at all and she told me she loved me right before bed. Same thing happened the following day. The daynext day we started to talk about us and I told her if this is what she wanted that I wouldn't stop it. She came to my house and told me that I was emotionally abusing her by asking if this was what she wanted. Later she told me that she loved me. The next morning I told her that If this is what she wanted it needed to stop. She got angry and went into a rage telling me she wanted all her stuff out of my house. I asked what I had and she told me. I packed it up and texted her telling her it was ready. She called me an hour later and said she didn't have my stuff with her but she can get hers now and I would get mine later. She was back to the chipper self. I said no and she got mad. About an hour or so later I called her and asked when she would be coming for it. She started getting mad and than calmed down. I asked if it was what she wanted and she hesitated and said yes. We didn't talk. The next day she went out clubbing with her friends. I ignored it and we did not talk. I put up pictures the following day and she texted me and asked I take one of them down. I didnt answer and removed it. 2.5 hours later she still hadnt heard from me so she texts me and said that I was choosing to ignore her. I answered and told her that she needs to leave me alone and not ask for favors. She got angry and later I appologized for it and we started talking civily. A few days later everything was better and great. A week later she said she wanted to move in together. We hadn't gone a month without her telling me to leave. So I agreed but said that we should put it all in her name so that way I wasn;t left on the streets. She got angry and told me that it was basically the end of us if we didn't move in when her lease was up on June 1st. Things were okay once she saw my point and she didn't fight me. All the suddon on mothers day she started to ignore me and got angry when I called. She appologized a few minutes later and things were okay. She didn't want me to take off of work that day so we went to dinner on Monday. On the way to dinner she said she wanted to move in a year for a year away and then if she liked it I could follow. I got upset and asked we stop talking about it for the time being. After dinner she told me that her friends didn't understand why I was always with her going out and it wasn't just her and her friends. She started fighting me and told me to take her home. I dropped her off and 3 hours later she called me to ask me back. I was angry so I didn't say anything to her. A few hours later she was trying to sleep and wouldn't help get the baby to sleep. She started fighting me and tossed me out again. I left and she started texting me and told me I was a asshole for leaving and such. The next day when I answered her message I asked if she was done. She said no and went on again. We were barely talking and it was basically fighting. So I left her alone. On Wed I picked the baby up and she knew I had no money to eat so she tried to give me money. I refused and took the baby with me to the park. I drpped him off a little bit later and she got me food at the store. She told me multiple times she loved me and cared about me. We went on not being okay for a while and than on Thursday she forced me to eat bc she got me lunch. Later that day when I had money I put it all in a envelope and went to her house. She came right out and was trying to talk to me. I asked her to come to my house and talk as I was alone. She wanted to talk there and I said to her it wasnt a good idea bc her family was home and it should be just us. She said well see and went inside. Later she said maybe well get dinner and talk. I didn't hear from her so I called her and she was going to a store with her sister and she thought I meant later on. 2 hours went by and I told her to forget it. She acted like she cared and became rude to me again. The next day she was going on and on with me. I told her that she didn't care about me so she needed to stop acting like she did. I told her that I needed her to talk and she refused. I finally told her that I wasn't going to play games anymore and if she didn't love me and care we needed to stop playing. She ended up calling me and wanting me to sleep over. I refused because we didn't talk and I didn't want to be there until we were better. It went on to her telling me that she was going out drinking over for a day with her sister and that the next day we could go to her fathers house. I got angry because all the other boyfriends were invited but me and that there were a bunch of random guys going. She told me that I was controlling and she was doing what she wanted and going away with her sister. I told her do whatevery you want I dont care anymore, sleep with them all for all I care. She hung up and texted me telling me that I called her a slut and I should learn to trust her. I finally told her to stop playing me for a fool and left it be. The next day she called me because she thought something was wrong as I hadn't texted her. I told her I was done and that was it. She went on to tell me her sister didnt want me there and if I was going that she wasnt allowed to meet her sister. She hung up on me and started texting me. I told her that all the other boyfriends are going but me and all these single guys, if she doesn't want to be with me than she needs to stop. She told me that she wants to go hang with her sister. Going back, sex has been an issue since she became prego. While prego she would fight me and not want to have sex as much as prior. Things got fine and we stopped over that. After the fight 2 months ago she came back and wanted it and was trying new stuff. That lasted a few weeks and was back to her not wanting it as much. Than again she was different in bed after her clubbing. She says she has been faithful and didn't want anyone else. Is there a chance she is cheating, looking to find someone else? Advice on all this please!!!!
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