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writes: hi people.. so uh,we all have our good memories and bad memories. Being human we all made mistakes, sometimes a huge mistake right? So.. In 2006, i met a new friend, she's nice and all. We get along pretty well and I see her as a good friend,but what I didnt know that she's a lesbian and she happened 2 have a huge crush on me. When I found out, I started 2 ignore her because, being only 14 at that time I was disgusted that she likes me. Some people at school knew that she's gay, and they thought that me and her were an item. My gay friend was depressed that I didnt like her that way, so I guess she has turned obsessed with me and kept lying to all her friends that I LIKE HER SO MUCH. I hated the fact that she told everyone that Im gay which Im NOT. And guys.. imagine that people kept yelling GAY whenever they saw me its still going on. It hurts really bad. Worse, even my family and best friends think Im gay, they dont trust me. I would say that the gay girl annihilated my pride. I just dont see how I live my life out of this misery. And I said before that being human, we all made mistakes, i didnt know that she had feelings for me, and I certainly didnt think that me being friendly to her meant that I had a lesbian crush on her. Guys,I just dont know what to do anymore. I dont even know where she is, and why she ruins my life too badly. Those people that accused me of being not who I am just driving me nuts. At school, people are disgusted that Im gay.. guys im really not. What do I do?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (23 February 2010):
 If some choose to have sex and love within their own gender, so be it - and to each their own. But is also still ok to be straight "cherry264" without any apology to anyone. Being accused of ANY falsehood is what is unjust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the gay and lesbian readers, i apologise if my question offended you. I just hate it when im accused of what Im not. And im just angry that my gay friend made up stories about me. She took my family,friends and society's trust. But that doesnt mean I hate all gays and lesbian people.. I respect that ur not afraid of being who u r. And I learned that from all of u. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks guys. You guys are right,I really shouldnt pay attention about what people think and say about me. To one of the anonymous reader,thanks. Im sorry to hear that he did that to you and to have your own mother not believe in you. And you know what, its people like you makes me wanna become a cop sometimes. At least someone believed you. And to the other anonymous reader, as of right know i think I can manage not to care about it. And thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): First off try to see that its not the girl who did this to you. The problem is because your family and closest friends choose to believe a girl they barely know over YOU. I can tell you right away that if your friends choose to believe some other person over you, they are not really good friends, so it might be about time to find some new ones.
Aren't you about to go to college soon, Im guessing you're finishing up high school now since you still have this problem with people you knew from age 14? Then comfort yourself with knowing that soon you will be out of this misery. And try your best to ignore what people say, you're not gay and it's horrible to have people not believe you, no matter the accusation. The problem you have though is not what this girl said, but that these people believe her over you, which just goes to show where their loyalty lies.
As for parents, I've had my own mother not believe me when a family friend tried to get into my bedroom at night and was also feeling me up and locking me up in the bathroom so he could grope me. He also pushed me down on the floor underneath him right in FRONT of my mother, and yet she didn't believe me when I said he had tried to enter my bedroom at night. I was so scared of this man that I couldn't be in the house when he was visiting, and yet my mother didn't believe me. So I know what its like to have your family not believe you and it truly does suck and hurts. But know that you are not alone having to deal with this stupidity from others.
Best of luck, hang in there and soon you can leave these people when you are done with school and can find a job and live wherever you want!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 February 2010):
All you have to do is get a boyfriend.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 February 2010):
 I think it was wrong to just ignore her because she was gay, she was 14 she might not even have been gay she may have really liked you but at that age a girl can still be figuring ou her sexuality.
you say you where her friend but you just completely turned your back on her, being her friend wasnt a mistake turning your back on her the way you did was. A better way to handle the situation would have been to explain to her that you werent gay.
you where young at the time and didnt make the best decision but you can see how this could have been handled better.
mistreating someone because of there sexual orientation faith or race is all the same thing you are far from perfect so what gives you the rite to be disgusted with someone.
If your best friends think your gay and your not then there not friends, if your family thinks you are too and your not then it sounds like you dont have a very good relation ship with them.
my advice find this girl and apologize because you owe her an apology. She was your friend and you threw her to the curb and judged her. start dating guys so people will see you with males and eventually they will get over the gay thing, get new friends and tell your family to cut out all BS
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): just ignore it, it will pass. You are the one giving it life by caring. The less you care, the less everyone else will. People just get a kick out of torturing you. IF you stop reacting it will pass.
Remember you are the one giving people the power to do this. Stop caring.
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reader, monkeys1  +, writes (22 February 2010):
just dont worry about it, speak to your parents again and tell them what you have told us, or get a friend to start a rumor saying you like a guy or ask a guy out, and if that dont work just remember 'sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!' hope everything works out for the best
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