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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I joined this one company about six months back, and everything was hunky-dory for a while.It was a very small office with less than 10 people working, but the salary seemed okay for a fresher and I had no trouble fitting in. Days went by, and I became friendly with all my colleagues. However, there was this one woman, (let's call her X) with who I always seemed to have clashes for one reason or the other. We fought a lot, though that never really soured our relationship to a great extent. But following a few clashes in recent times, things have got more serious. She and another colleague (who is her college friend) seem to have gone on a "give me the silent treatment" mode. All casual banter that existed formerly is gone, and to make things difficult I sit at a desk which is isolated from all the other females at workplace, so that they (the two aforementioned colleagues) are able to form stronger bonds with the other female colleagues who work with us. They seem to always chat and laugh in between work, and I feel left out.And the first colleague (X) frequently does all she can to belittle and mock me subtly before others. I retort back, but that's not always possible. To make things worse, there's thins one guy at office who makes fun of me all the time without reason.So it mostly goes like this:X provokes me. I retort back. Sometime the retorts are successful, but at other times they are diluted when the guy joins in to make fun of me and put me in a weak position. And with most of the staff being friendly to X, I feel like I'm in a pressure cooker all the while I'm at work.I'm afraid to be myself, I'm always afraid that I might say something wrong that would give X an opportunity to make fun of me. What do I do? Should I quit? I feel like everyone's slowly becoming hostile towards me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 June 2016):
 If you feel like you are getting bullied, then you go to your boss and you make a complaint. But if you are being just as bad back then to me it sounds like childish bickering. Maybe you need to talk to X and tell her how you are feeling, tell her you feel left out and ask her could you both try and get on? Sometimes honesty is the best policy.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 June 2016):
 I think you work in an environment with really bad attitude and you are NOT adding anything positive to it either.
These "fights" you got into with X were they over work? Has she been there longer and was telling you what to do and you got mad or what?
It all sounds so petty.
Maybe you need to consider looking for a new job BEFORE quitting, but TRY and be professional. If this X makes ugly remarks about you (not your work) then IGNORE them, why get in the gutter with her and retort? It will only make HER look mean and rude.
What about your office manager? Boss? Maybe this is something that needs to be discussed.
Over all it sounds like a bunch of kids, not grown adults, and THAT is really unprofessional.
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