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writes:I am 19 years old, in college, and I've been in a relationship with a boy I met about 4 months ago. Recently (a month ago) I met his single father and he's really attractive to say the least. We had a discussion while my boyfriend was in the shower and it turned into flirting. I've been trying to avoid his father, but it's kind of hard when I go over to his house almost every day to babysit his younger brother, go swimming, take care of the dogs, etc.The father thinks I'm attractive, I know this because I overheard him and his father talking about my legs and body. Is it normal to want the father more than the son? Would it be entirely messed up if I went out on a couple of dates with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Well, if you've ever had fantasies about having sex with two men at the same time, dating both your boyfriend and his father would be one way to fulfill those fantasies, especially if you are attracted to both of them. Plus, you are still very young, and if you want to do some wild and adventurous things before you "settle down," a three-way relationship with your BF and his dad would be a way to do that. It's really up to you. But you probably better talk to your BF about it first. People do have these kind of "swinging" relationships. It's essentially up to you whether you want to pursue something like that or not.
Have you ever told your BF that you're attracted to his father? Better to be honest with him about this instead of keeping it inside of you. One thing's for sure, you couldn't date his date without telling your BF about it. And it could cause tension between him and his dad. Post back here to tell us what you decided to do.
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reader, ericinwisconsin +, writes (10 July 2009):
Ah, the center of many male fantasies, and you can read about them all over the web.Having said that, it would be a stupid move on your part and sure to strain the father's relationship with his son. Forget about it and do what you must to prevent it from happening. This is truely a "Jerry Springer moment" and you need to avoid looking like trash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): It would be morally wrong, you'd break up a family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Yes it would be messed up, so to entirely mess up a father and son relationship i would either stay away from coming over the fathers house or break the relationship with the son. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Nobody's mentioned another part of the problem, and that is you'll forever destroy a father and son's relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): You'd better quit the job babysittering and just meet with your B/F. You have to face your reality, you're not adult yet. You should realise how to protect yourself. How could you solve this problem if your B/F notice this? You should tell your B/F details although he feel terrible because your psychological safety is more important.
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reader, greg290352  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 In the end it comes down to whether you fancy your boyfriend more than his dad. It's not likely you can keep both! Certainly younger girls and older guys is a good combination as older guys are often more interesting. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): How old is your boyfriend's dad ? I ask because not all parents are young when their children are born.
Be very careful.Your boyfriends dad may only be after one thing,especially since he was talking about your physical appearance,and because you are so much younger than him.Although some men can genuinely like someone alot younger than them.However,the thought of going out with someone who had created my boyfriend would put me off !.The only reason i would go after a much older man is if he was single with no kids,or at least no kids that i am attracted to !.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (1 July 2009):
It will damage the relationship between you and your boyfriend. Not only that but there is a huge chance it will damage the relationship between the father and the son. I wouldn't do it if I were you. Maybe if you and your boyfriend break up, wait a while after he moves on and etc and then make a move on the dad. Hopefully his dad isn't the kind of person that would steal his own son's girlfriend anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Well it wouldn't necessarily be weird assuming there isn't a huge age difference, but you'll probably not only crush your bf, but it will probably weird him out. A lot. Personally I would avoid the situation, but if you feel like you have to, it's not illegal or anything. Even if it is a little wrong to your boyfriend's feelings (that would make him feel pretty inadequate I'd assume).
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): It would certainly mess up your relationship with your b/f!
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