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writes:I feel terrible that im attracted to married men and they to me. I find out they are married until after we've had sex. i can't believe it always happens to me. Im in a sorta relationship now and he loves his wife he's told me, but can't stop calling me. What do i do. I think i have feelings for him, but im so sad now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): Ditto on the advice below. Married men are not attracted to you and you to them, you don't take your time to get to know them before having sex, any guy who would lie to you like that is not worth anything. You don't have feelings for him, you have feelings of rejection and you are thinking the pain you feel equals love or is a measure of how much you cared....you just bonded after sex and now you are hurt, period.
Check the signals you are sending out to men if this keeps happening to you. Do you always dress provocatively to attract a man, tight clothes, shirts that show your cleavage off. When men see a woman dress this way, they think short term, they think about the other men that have been on top of you, it screams I am easy and I am desperate and I want to have sex with you and I don't care how you treat me.
Seriously, guys worth their salt, respect women more, if they show a little less skin, they want to have respect for you and win you over....they don't have to do that with you right, you are just too easy, plain and simple....Men might never admit this, but I am telling you the truth....ask a guy in a solid relationship what he thinks of the way single women dress these days.
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reader, rachael123 +, writes (14 April 2007):
 cant you see these men are using you! i have a friend in a very similar situation and i will tell you what i told her. stop it, now. these men will never leave there wives for you. they have been with there wives for many years, you are just a bit on the side. if you keeps this up you will end up heartbroken over and over again.
have some self respect and stop this before it goes any further. think of his poor wife. im sure he has spun some tale of how his wife never gives him sex and doesnt understand him. that is not your problem! that poor women is waiting for her HUSBAND to come home and hes shacked up in bed with you.
my advice to you is to take your time with any future relationships. dont sleep with any man until you have been seeing him for a while and make sure he is totally devoted to you and hot a wife and three kids because you dont deserve to be second best. you deserve a man that totally adores the ground you walk on. and he will come. but not if your with a married man! good luck i hope you see sence and dump this jerk. what makes him so s[pecial he gets to have two women in his life! rachael xx
p.s stay clear of the wife!!!!!!!!!1
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