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writes:hi, i was going out with a guy for 3 and a half years and we have just broken up. i feel really confused. we got on great together, he is my best friend and i really wanted to make things work. however, what went wrong was that he didnt seem interested in having sex with me. things used to be ok, but then nothing happened for 6 months, and when i asked him why he said it was because he got embarassed buying condoms. i thought this was a bit ridiculous and not a very believable explaination?? anyway, this made me feel like he didnt really want me, like i was being taken for granted as he knew how upset it made me and yet was not interested in doing anything to try and fix things. what we had was great and i cant believe he would just throw it away like that. all i wanted was some sign from him to let me know i was as important to him as he said i was but he didnt comment much when i was explaining how i felt. he is going away travelling in a month and a half which kind of forced the decision to end things, but now i feel like we didnt even try to get back what we had and that there are loose ends. i want to talk to him about how i feel but maybe now it's too late?? perhaps i should just move on.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (15 April 2007):
 It does sound like HE has lost interest in the relationship. It is always that feeling that you or both of you could of done more to get back what you had when the relationship was in its prime.
I think you have done pretty much everything you could of done considering. You have told him how you felt and he has decided not to respond to feelings. Its a shame really.
The decline in sex is always a tell tell sign; and the excuse he gave just proves he is unable to express himself like you seem to with him.
I do think it is too late now. If he really wanted things to work he would of said something before he went away, but he has'nt.
Time to move on and look forward i think. You have done all you could so dont feel like you have'nt.
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