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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now and we have a 4 year old little girl,but just latley i am not happy,he is always tierd and never has nay time for me,it is like i am not there anymore.To be honest i have not been happy for a while on and off.I went on a girls night out two week's ago and i was chatted up by this really good looking guy,i now cant get him out of my head.Am i just looking for a way out of this relationship?I am 26 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): hiya iv felt like this before i'd been with my boyfriend ste for 3years and when i started working in a pub i got chatted up by this funny great looking lad but i fell for it and ended up cheating on my boyfriend for about 6months i then realised that i was trapped in between my bf and this lad so i decided to tell the truth about my affair he got mad and we split up it was so painful because he was my best friend aswell. then i found out that the lad terry had been with his girlfriend for 4years and i was gutted but luckly my ex ste took me back but it didnt last long. x
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reader, tux  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 "Nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight
..Got to kick at the darkness til it bleeds daylight"
- Bruce Cockburn
But I agree with Sweet-Thing on this. It's too early to throw in the towel. You have invested 10 years to this relationship and it's starting to get stale. Relationships can get that way after 1 year. You need to talk to your boyfriend and see why he is being distant and always tired. Is it because he is working a lot? or is he just hanging out with his friends too much?
But one thing I will suggest for you is to starting dating again.. Not other people.. but start dating your boyfriend again. Have him pick you up and take you movies and dinner and have him drop you off at the doorstep again. Go out and do fun, exciting things.. Relationship start getting stale because it becomes a norm and you find yourself going out less and less. but You two need to sit down and talk.. Good luck.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (6 November 2007):
 You were very young when you got involved in this relationship. You've grown since then, and grown up in many ways. It's common for couples to fall into the trap of letting their relationship become too routine and women tend to be the first to get bored in their relationships when their needs aren't being met -- meaning, they don't feel valued or attractive to their mates anymore. This will make any young woman vulnerable to the attention of another man. Especially a good looking one. But -- before you throw in the towel, you need to do some damage control on your current relationship. Talk to your b/f about how you're feeling. It may be time to schedule some time alone as a couple for a week-end getaway, or maybe a once-a-week night out together so you can rekindle your passion. If you take steps now, you may be able to re-discover yourselves as a couple and keep your relationship from de-railing. I wish you the best.
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