I'm at my wit's end and don't know what to do, anymore.

A female age 36-40, *aby-it's-you writes:

I'm really at my wit's end, i don't know what to do anymore. I've been together with my boyfriend for 1,5 year now. I'm 25, he's 28. Everything was going great until a few months ago. Here's what happened: my mother never really trusted him (there was his exgirlfriend who still claimed a lot of his attention at the beginning of our relationship, maybe some other mysterious things about him, he's a workaholic so he has little time for me and she's convinced he's never gonna be any good for me), my sister didn't like him from the beginning. Things started to escalate after his birthday party. I took my sister to the party hoping they would start to get along with each other, quite the contrary happened. I argued with my boyfriend that night because he was really behaving stupid towards me and so my sister saw her initial thoughts about him confirmed that night. The next day I came home after class and my mother was furious. She told me I had to break up with him immediately and he could never enter our house again. Two days later they met accidentally and she refused to greet him when he said hello. He must have felt humiliated by her and he texted her that she has to feel ashamed by her behaviour. Of course he shouldn't have done that because it shows his lack of respect towards my mother. But then, she shouldn't have reacted that way either. Months have gone by and the situation only got worse. Every time I want to see my boyfriend I get arguing with my mother. So we don't meet that much anymore since it makes me sick to loose this bond with my family. But i want to have fun, be happy, spent time with my boyfriend. We also haven't slept together at night since February because my mother doesn't allow me to stay away for the night. I know I shouldn't obey anymore at the age of 25 but I do, out of respect for my mother Who raised us all alone after my father left us. It doesn't make thing easier. The thing is: we can't go on like this. We need a solution, i don't know what role I can play in this anymore. My boyfriend has tickets for the Olympic games for both of us and I just don't know how I should explain to my mother I'm going for 3 days to London with him. If anyone has experience on similar situations please help me with your advice. Or just share your general thoughts since I can't think clear anymore. I feel so caught up in the middle and I need a clear view from an outsider in this. Thanks anyway.

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