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female
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*azuki
writes:I am currently in a relationship for four months. I am a picky dater and I rarely allow a relationship to go past a week. I have dated one guy previoulsy that lasted 6 months. Most guys don't even get a kiss, so it's not like my relationships are sexually based.My current boyfriend, we'll just call him Cowboy. Isn't the first I've had sex with, but is the first that I've had a sexual relationship with. We've known eachother since highschool, but during those years I hated him. Well, I'm at a loss what to do. I love him very much but my parents don't. He hasnt lied to me, he remebers our monthly anniversary (I never thought guys were into that, my mom makes fun of us) even buys me things for our monthly anniversaries. Randomly gives me flowers or stuffed animals, texts me to tell me he misses me and doenst want to go a day without seeing me ( Four months and we've only gone one day, once, without seeing eachother cause of work) We're together constantly, I have met his dad step mom, great grandma, and friends that are like family to him. I'm 18 and my parents make me be home by a certain time every night and just hate me dating him. Honeslty I don't know why they dislike him.My brother says it's cause I'm the youngest out of 6 kids.Well he's talking about me moving in with him, it's just something in discussion right now. but I feel like that'd be rushing things. I've always avoided relationships so I'm at a loss on the whole...time thing. Also I don't want to cause much conflict between us and my parents because they are a major part of my life.Any kind of suggestions, comments, anything would help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 May 2011):
To be fair to your brother, he may well be onto something there when he says it's because you're the youngest.
All parents at some point are filled with some regret and some fear when they can see their children growing up - and this does often apply to the youngest child because they represent the last 'baby'. Most parents, however, are able to deal with this. Occasionally, some simply can't. Maybe your brother has seen that your parents are struggling somewhat.
I think there are a couple of things you can do:
1 - You need to specifically ask why they don't like him. And they need to give you specific answers.
2 - You need to explain to them that you love them, but that you need some freedom to make your own choices, and since you are 18 and an adult, you can make them with or without them anyway.
3 - Your brother sounds like he's quite wise. Maybe you could introduce your boyfriend to him, because I think your brother will give you an honest opinion about whether he's a good guy and someone you should be with (just in case the problem is your boyfriend.)
Honestly though, you need to speak to your parents, and you need some specific answers.
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