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*ayney19690206
writes:I am a bit confused and upset. I started to see a non committal man a while ago. Who kept changing his mind about what he wants. He decided he wanted a relationship then changed his mind. We still met up some weekends I stayed but was aware he didn't want a relationship due to his words scared. I told him i needed to find someone who wanted to be with me and can we be friends and that I cared for him still. He agreed after a few days of ignoring my texts.A week later I was silly and told him I missed him and can we go back to going with the flow. He agreed, then changed his mind saying one of us will get hurt in the end but he still wants friends and to go out for weekends to pub with me. I told him I was feeling silly and basically stupid at the whole messing about. I then was confused. I texted again saying stuff and agreed to what he said. He then cancelled the weekend and now is ignoring my olive branch to stay friends.I think too much has happened and probably too much said via text.I am at a loss now why he is ignoring me and it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2015): I have been in a similar situation and it sounds as if he is attempting to end the relationship. This man is choosing to take the easy way out rather than stand and be a gentleman and tell you it's over. It's sad in today's society sex has become a recreational sport rather than a commitment. Your heart is hurting now, but I think you maybe better off without him. Remember it's ok to cry, but if you find you are having difficulty getting over this relationship then please consider seeking some counseling. If you can't afford counseling then go to your nearest mental health facility or even call your physician and ask for a list of mental health facilities that would be willing to assist you for free. Do Take Care,Angel Blue Eyes
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): You're in the "friend-zone." He doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. You're pursuing him in spite of the fact he's back and forth about how he feels about you. It seems to me he's trying not to hurt your feelings, or he's holding out for sex.
Either way, you'd be better off to kick him to the curb. Don't look desperate, maintain your dignity.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (16 May 2015):
 You met an oxymoron...a "non-commital man" wow, kind of like military intellegence. Keep looking, this guy is not for you. good luck
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 May 2015):
 Let him go.
YOU want a guy to date, not fool around with so WHY settle for a "non-committal" fella, when it's NOT really what you want? Don't date someone hoping he will change his mind. It doesn't work that way. It's like buying a car without an engine, hoping that one day, it will decide to grow an engine....
Stick to WHAT you want. This yo-yo attitude will NOT make you happy.
I think he is ignoring you because he KNOWS you don't want something casual and he doesn't want to be the one to hurt you - because he IS NOT interested in a relationship.
Move on.. Stop wasting your time on him.
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