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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I feel very lonely in my marriage. I work and go to school and my husband works full time. This is not what bothers me, what bothers me is that after his job, he has to go help his father at their company. So he does double the work. By the time he comes home, he is exhausted and has no energy to spend time with me like going out for a walk around our neighborhood or anything else. I explained to him how it bothers me that we do not spend quality time together and he says "this is my life, I have no choice but to help my father because I am the eldest son." I told him I do not want a part time husband, and I told him I cannot imagine how life will be when we have kids. Today, it was his day off but he had jobs to do with his father. That is fine. I kept on asking him when will he come home? Because I wanted to go for a jog with him and make plans together or even go grocery shopping together. He said in an hour, so 3 hours passes by and he is still not home. When he comes home he said he made plans with his buddies. Right before he left, I checked my email and found out I failed my state exam which I took for a certain certification. I cried, he felt bad but he left 5 min after trying to console me. Now I am sitting home alone feeling very depressed and lonely. I don't know what to do.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (16 May 2015):
 You are low on his list of priorities, you need to think about that, and if you believe that state of affairs will never change you need to decide if you are happy with that, or if you feel you deserve something a little better.
You are young, you don't have any children to consider, maybe you need to put some serious thought into what you expect from a marriage, and if you can afford it, talk to a counsellor, or trusted older friend.
I wish you luck.
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