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writes:Okay.. im 18 years old and on ausgust 12, 2010 i was in a car accident and ive been stayin with my mom since then. i am in a relationship and have been for almost a year and a half.and i am currently staying in another county almost an hour from where he lives. i only get to see him on sundays bc we go to my grandparents near where he lives. he never comes to my moms and sees me at all and when i ask him his reply is "hell no". ive been staying with my mom since the wreck because shes helping me out with some things.and my boyfriend doesnt seem to understand that.and when he gets mad at me he calls me names like: fat ass,bitch,floozy.i feel like ive been here and he has just given up on us.im the kind of person that is hard to trust someone and im tryin to trust him as much as i can. sometimes im just at a crossroad and idk what to do or how to fix our relationship? what should i do? what should i tell him or talk to him about..please help i dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 A boyfriend would run to your side to make sure you're in one piece at the hospital. He's not going to change, if he's always been like this. Maybe one day he'll grow up, but usually once an abuser always an abuser. That's a crap excuse that his mom wouldn't let him come see you. If he's your age range, he's a legal adult and there's nothing stopping from him from getting in a car to come see you. He's just feeding you a line. You also have trust issues, that's another sign this relationship isn't for you.
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reader, ashie31 +, writes (4 November 2010):
ashie31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. for giving me advice. idk what to do i love him so much and idk sometimes i have hope that he will change. he is so nice sometimes and then he turns around and treats me like a door mat. he didnt come see me in the hospital he said his mom wouldn let him which she is controlling over him. i just have trust issues and i feel so lost about it
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2010):
Break up with him!!! He doesn't respect you if he calls you hurtful names, by the way that's called verbal abuse. Did he even bother to visit you in the hospital? He could care less to make a hour drive to see if you're doing well and just to care for you. What has he done for you?
There's no fixing this relationship, in order for that to happen he has to put forth effort and stop the verbal abuse..but that would require him to change and I don't see that happening. Muster up what self respect and common sense you have left to dump this jerk. You deserve much better than what you're getting.
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