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writes:What woman would date a guy who’s asexual?Hi, I’m a guy who’s 25 years old still a virgin and asexual. For those of you who don’t know what an asexual is, it’s someone who has, never had, or desired the need to have sex. The thing is, although I’m happy with the no sex lifestyle I always wonder what kind of woman is going to date a guy like me? How do I go about telling women that I date, that I’m asexual? How are they likely going to react to this news? It’s just, I really don’t want to live a life alone because I’m asexual. For this reason it has made it difficult to take a chance of dating women, to find out if they would be ok in being with an asexual. Which is probably the reason I don’t bother with the whole dating thing. What with the whole world obsessed with sex. Just tell me honestly, am I doomed to a life alone because I’m asexual? I mean how likely are my chances of finding an asexual woman?Also, what are my chances of me dating a woman who is ok with dating with an asexual, but cheats on me because she can’t live without both me and sex in her life? I know I’m overreacting on that part. But it’s something I will worry about if I’m even lucky enough to find a woman who’s ok with it. The other problem I will have, is the guilt of denying her things like sex and children because I’m asexual. I mean part of me, if she ever did have an affair would be forgiving because of the guilt I would probably have in denying her the things she needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): I would have been someone who would have dated you since I, too, am asexual. Asexual doesn't mean you don't share intimacy, you just don't have sexual relations. I could go the rest of life not having sex but I couldn't go the rest of my life without affection: hugging, kissing, sleeping in the same bed, cuddling up on the couch, or holding hands. I don't feel a sexual pull, I don't need or want the sex, I just like closeness.
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reader, cuttieicy  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 youre lucky cause its difficult this days to find a man who still a virgin.Just give it to the one you truly love. thats my piece of advice
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Hello!
In case you weren't already aware, there are actually forumes set up for asexuals to find someone to date, and even possably marry eventually. I don't know of these sites off the top of my head unforunitly, but i do know for a FACT that they do exist. Since you are asexual, it makes the most sence to me that you find anouther person who is asexual to date, that way you don't have to deal with the guilt of sex, children, etc. And yes, there are females who are asexual.... my roomate for 2 years in college was one! She had many of the same concerns as you, and because of it decided not to date, though she did wish she could have a bf, still kiss, and deff. cuddle. Please find some of the sites, forumes, and clubs for asexuals. not only could you maybe meet your soulmate on here, but you will no doubt make some new friends and perhaps learn more and feel more comfertable with being asexual.
in regard to your question on if a stright women would want to date you, and possibly have a future with you but without sex or children (perhaps adoption is an option...? just wondering about that part a little), i don't know how many women out there would want this, but i am sure there are some. Some women (and men) have a naturaly very low sex drive, so a women like this might be allright with it, and might actually be realived to finnialy meet a male who isnt always trying to pressure her into sex. however, the only other type of person i can think of is someone who has sufferd sever sexual trama... like that of a rape. though a person who has been turned off sex completly from this might exist, and might be intrested in a non sexual relationship.... i'm not sure such a person would be the best choich.... I would, once again, highly suggest an asexual website for asexuals to meet and perhaps have relationships with eachother.
tons of huggs
-Juliette
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): Has your condition been confirmed by investigation such as blood tests? There may be something that needs attention, or have you just accepted you do not have sexual feelings?
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