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writes:I'm 19 years old I go to college, work, I have a lot of friends, I go out all the time, and have a great family. I have everything going for me, but it always feels like theres something missing. I never had a serious relationship, like the type you bring home to mom. I often wonder if it will ever happen for me. I feel like its getting so late in life to still be at this stage. I'm around men all the time when I go out with friends and all, but nothing ever comes out if it. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. What are your thoughts on this? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (7 April 2013):
 At 19 years old you are still way young to be worrying about long-term boyfriends.
Most guys are that age aren't really capable of relationships. Their careers aren't set up, money can be a problem, and they are focusing on school. Some lucky ones do date, but I find that is the exception rather than the rule for people your age. Most wind up in the friends with benefits situation.
What may be scaring guys off is the fact that you are around guys all the time. An outsider looking in might see plenty of rivals for your attention and figure you aren't worth the effort or that one of the guys IS your boyfriend. Also the guys you are hanging around with probably see you as friend material (which nothing is wrong with).
If you want a boyfriend, and a guy strikes your fancy, I suggest initiating things on your own. Ask him out, get to know him better -- do what you'd wish a guy would do. Many guys are shy and wish that women would take a stronger role in starting things rolling. Believe me, as a guy, it is not easy to risk rejection...
Be patient -- your time will come and soon enough you'll be fighting men off (I think the threshold starts after you turn 21). In the meantime, figure out what you are looking for and what makes a good mate. You'll be ahead of the game when your turn comes.
Eddie
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