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writes:So, just to let you know that this is gonna be long...My ex girlfriend had just broken up with me recently(about a month in a half ago) and we decided to be friends..well best friends, but then she started dating someone else a month after we broke up, which really hurts me but i decided to be mature about the situation and not freak out, so instead I just decided to leave her alone so she can have her relationship...I told her that even though I still wanted to be friends with her, I needed time to myself to get my head straight and that I'd contact her when i was ready(which would be the day I get over her)But here's my situation....Even though i was calm when she started dating someone else, deep down I'm EXTREMELY angry at her for replacing me so soon..especially after dating me for 2 yrs! There's a part of me thats telling me to never talk to her again cause of how bad she hurt me and that I'd be better off without her, but then there's another part of me thats telling me to get over it and talk to her once I'm over her cause I dont want to lose a good friend..I honestly dont know what to do :( which btw as much as I wish that I was, I'm still not over this girl..any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah your right being best friends after a break up is hard....and thats why i told her that i needed time to myself. To be honest, sometimes i dont even know what I feel about the situation and her anymore
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Being best friends after a break up is always complicated, since there are always some residual feelings.
Get yourself some distance and space from her. Wish her happiness. Maybe in time you can become friends again, right now, it hurts too much to do so.
Maybe she is dating to get over you. A rebound. It happens. People deal with break up different ways. Some stay away from relationships like they are the plague, others get right back in the saddle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I havent and the reason for that is cause she refuses to talk to me about anything that has to do with our break up....plus the subject of her dating someone else isnt exactly something i want to talk to her about. But idk if she's serious with this girl or not..but everytime i go on facebook, all i see if status updates that she puts ALL about her new girl! And some of the things she has said to this girl are things that she has said to me when we were together...so now idk i feel like i'm not someone that was ever important to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): When she dated you...it was you're buisness who she was going out with but then you broke up. Even if it was a day after you broke up its not you're business anymore because you both broke up and she's free to do whatever she wants and its not you're concern. Because you both finished the relationship and you and her have every right to get date someone else and move on.
Its best to move on.
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