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writes:I rent a house with 2 friends of mine, and living with them has been great ... except when I bring my girlfriend around. One of my roomies is cordial and funny but my other roomie seems like hes always trying to impress my girlfriend or make me look bad. Sometimes he will engage in conversations with her where there will be nothing I can possibly add, such as asking her for personal advice. He has no prior friendship or history with my girlfriend. This weekend we were in a parking lot of a subway station and he had my girlfriend in a discussion, broken away from our group of friends. I overheard him criticizing my driving to her, which offended me as a cheap, petty, punkish thing to do.For some reason my girlfriend obliges him and will take his side whenever I throw barbs or make comments about them having private convos.I love my girlfriend but this dude is ridiculous. What's his problem, and why does my girlfriend remain indifferent to his underhanded slander? I want to fight him and I've known him for over 15 years. What do I do?
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reader, Jubo +, writes (18 May 2010):
Jubo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought I was being insecure a while back but this account wasn't the first time. Here's another example of his bogarding for my girlfriend's attention:
My girlfriend came over and we made plans to cook dinner together and watch a movie we rented. We had just finished cooking and sat down in front of the TV with our food when my room mate entered started chatting it up my girlfriend. It was innocent enough but it started to drag on, and anything I contributed to their various topics seemed to go unheard as they continued their rolling talk about nothing in particular.
The movie we rented was sherlock holmes by the way, which clocks in at about 1.5 hours. Well, my roomie sat down behind us on the stairs and my girlfriend literally turned around to face him as they continued the conversation.
This continued for over an hour, during which I just tried to watch the movie and hope he got the hint to leave. I was silent and clearly very annoyed. My "friend" was unphased and she didn't really care, she merely asked me "what's wrong?" and nudged me with an elbow; in front of my friend too, which I found to be a little embarrassing.
The end state of the night was that the movie had ended. She didn't watch any of it, nor did she eat her food.
I'm very offended by the entire situation. I'd like to add that my room mate is a pretty-boy, and he's accustomed to women comparing the both of us and liking him more. Something tells me that he doesn't accept the fact that I have an attractive girlfriend and he feels that he has something to prove. That's the only viable explanation I can think of for his behavior.
God dammit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): you might be being just a little insecure...but that is weird of them to team up on you so talk to him about it because you dont want a girl to come between you and a friend..an talk to her about it too because she should be for you not agiast you... but him asking her for advice is normal just bring up the issue
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