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writes:This is going to sound really strange, I was with my boyfriend for a year and he finished it saying I basically drove him crazy because I wanted a serious relationship and he felt we were too young. That was a year ago and we have been carrying on seeing each other and are basically the same as we were. However, now I’m starting to feel angry towards him and think that he is using me. I would finish it but two things are holding me back;One i love him so much and we are perfect for each other And two, he is one of four and all his brothers and sisters have partners who are very much involved in his family life. Something I never had (I only met his parents once in two years) and for this reason I just cannot walk away from us because I still hope that one day I’ll be involved with his family and that I’ll get invited to the family meals ect . . .I’m really confused and would love anyone to give their honest view on our situation and do they think I’m mad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, just want to say thank you for answering my question. Its lovely that you have taken time out to help someone! Decided to leave it as we are but... i've told him that i am not as serious about him anymore and that he has drove me away and its his fault if we grow apart and i've noticed a big change in the way he treats me! So atm its all good so thank you again for giving me the confidence to stand up for myself :)
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reader, steffi666 +, writes (2 February 2009):
You say love him, do you really? or do you love what you think you can have with him and his family. It sounds like hes doesnt want to settle, maybe hes a bit to young and doesnt feel he needs to yet.. And why should he when he has you for all his needs with out any of the hassle of a proper relationship. You deserve better and to have the kind of relationship you want with someone who feels the same as you do. Its hard to know if your making the right decsion and its scary but things will always get better after the heartache stops.. if you truely feel hes the one, give him a choose a proper relationship that you want or nothing but you have to mean it and if he doesnt respond walk. If he loves you that might be the shove he needs to get serious but hell have to prove it. If he lets you go im sorry but he aint worth it
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