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writes:Help! I'm constantly jealous about the littlest things. I'm always wondering if another woman tries to flirt with my fiancee. He tells me there's no reason for me to worry. He has said one too many times there is no woman and if they show any reason to flirt or even move on to the next step (asking him out, touching him on the arm or patting him on his buttocks) he would walk away. There was a girl who, though she saw me and him together, decided she was going to make a play for him. She was with her mother and cousins and an aunt (I overheard them talking and staring at him and she saying that's the one I want to try for) planning on how to catch my fiancee's attention. My fiancee and I went to get some ice cream and while I went on over to the other side of the counter to check the other flavors, I went back to him almost colliding with that girl. I stood next to my guy and the girl purposely planted herself in front of us and pretended to "slip or trip" in front of us and said "Ooops...almost tripped there" in a soft girly girl voice and mind you she was wearing a very short short skirt (just below her buttocks) and braced herself on the counter and then turned around and walked back to her entourage. Obviously I knew what she was doing and turned to see what they were doing. They were waiting to see what my guy would do and waited. Well, since we wanted ice cream we ordered and my guy put his arm around me. The group the girl was with waited and as we left the ice cream parlor, walked away and sat at a nearby bench forgetting them. Why, why, why do women who see men with another woman with them go after the couple thinking they can try to lure him away???? Why? Mind you, I've got black hair and he's got blonde hair. These women had blonde hair too. I'm also asian and he's caucasian. Do you think that might have anything to do with that? What is wrong with this picutre???? Women, regardless of where we're at, have flirted with him in front of me and I'm getting ticked off because of this. Please help me. He says if women have flirted with him, he doesn't know nor has he seen it. I'm tired of having to feel like I might lose him to these other women though I'm engaged and to be married to him. Yikes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, maybe it's jealousy but I felt more or less upset with a girl that's openly brazen and flirting with the man I'm dating. What ever happened to "Oh, he's with that girl therefore I won't flirt with him. For all I know, she might be his girlfriend, fiancee, or worse, his wife." I suppose now a days, it doesn't matter whether you're with a guy or not, eh? Everything is available for the picking. The good thing is he stayed by my side through it all.
You are right though, women probably flirted with him when he's out with his buddies or on his own. But the issue at hand is to trust him. To realize that he asked me to marry him and not the other women. To remember that out of all the women out there, he went for me. The fact is he has told me that he loves me and respects me and I'll try that tip...when a girl flirts with him in front of us, I"ll just put my arms around him and kiss him. My honey said he has no objections in regards to that. : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): I think you shouldnt worry so much because it seems to me that your fiance loves you entirely if he didnt he wouldnt care about what you have to say about the other girls that flirt with him...i have also had this problem when me and my husband started dating girls would always try to say somthing to him or do something to get his attention but i am a pretty girl and (im sure you are to )so it didnt bother me at all.he wants to be with you not some slut... Girls also do that because they may be jelous of you if they think you are prettier than them and your with a handsome guy they feel the need to try to make themselves look better than you.its not because they want to take him away..just play there same game if a girl tries to do something in front of you start making out with your fiance it will catch them off guard and they will no that he yours and he isnt inerested in skanks btu that he loves you....good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): I had a similar thing happen the other day. We were shopping and an assistant in the shop was calling my partner 'darling & sweetheart'. And shamelessly trying to flirt with him. It made both of us rather embarrassed. I dont know why some women behave like that. But if your partner loves you and hes never cheated, then you can only trust him. Try not to worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): I would relax a bit. Women try to flirt with him but he's not interested and reassures you all is fine. You could be flattered that women find him attractive - but you feel threatened. Don't, as long as you know it's flirting on the girls part only and means nothing. He may get tired of you constantly questioning him about it. A confident, secure woman would be able to look at this with mild amusement. I think that is the best approach.
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