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writes:im 19 and in a relationship with a boy i love, its been over a year know and things couldnt be better, exept that i always get paranoid, when ever he leaves my house just to go home i get scaed that hes cheating on me and if he gets a message i asume its from another girl, i hate feeling this way and i think if i keep going like this i may destroy the most amazing relationship he is such a kind caring boy he always puts me first and tells me how much he loves me everyday, but i still cant get over being scared all the time, please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): Does he tell you who the messages are from? If you ask him will he tell you? Were you paranoid before in your relationship or did this only start recently? Maybe he's displaying certain behaviors that are making you doubt. You don't give many details about how he usually acts.
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (2 May 2011):
I feel the exact same way with my boyfriend. Every time he goes out, I get quite mad and resentful, for many reasons, but one of them being the fact that i'm afraid he's going to cheat on me. He has lots of friends that are girls, and they write cute little comments on his social network wall, and as well i've seen him texting his ex before and what not.I finally got so insecure and upset about it all that I finally brought it up and told him that I honestly didn't trust him and that I always thought he was going to cheat on me.He was very honest and open with me and was very stern in saying that he could never physically cheat on me and that he could not physically bring himself to do it. His dad has cheated on his mother many many times, and after seeing that he could never do it to someone. He then ended that with saying that I dont' trust him, then we shouldn't be together.It really helped me evaluate my own feelings and trust issues and it was good to be able to share with him.Try approaching your boyfriend and just honestly telling him about your fears. If he really does care a lot about you, he will take it very seriously and not in a rude or accusing manner. Just be calm and word yourself well, and do not accuse or be cruel in any way.Good luck
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